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My daughters Parole officer dropped ball?

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Well today I woke up and decided I needed to write a letter to the board of pardons. A little history. My daughter was in prison for drug charges in 2003. She then got out and did pretty well for a while. Then she relapsed and started taking pills again. Who knows what she was doing but regardless, in January she went to her po and asked her to please get her into a drub rehab. Her po did nothing. Since January she has been in jail 3 times, counting now. Her po never contacted her about her charges or did anything about them. I thought it was a po's job to watch over their parolee's but I guess not all of them do. Shouldnt her po have done something when she was arrested the first time? I dont know. I just think her po dropped the ball on her. If she had gotten the help she asked for in January, she wouldnt be incarcerated now. I dont take responsibility away from my daughter, but I just feel like she got lost in the system and was ignored until she was arrested 2 weeks ago. Anyone out there that can answer please do. Im so confused. By the way, I didnt know about her request for help at the time, or I would have contracted her po.
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In my opinion POs don't care as long as you show up to your scheduled appointments. I know lots of people who are back behind bars because the PO didn't hold up to their end. My best advice is to contact a lawyer and see if there is anything that can be done to get her into drug treatment instead of more jail time. Best of luck.
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po's only care about a paycheck, and not the people that have been assigned to them. (sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth) every once in a while you'll get a good one, and they're like counselors, they'll 'listen' and 'act', but those are far and few in between. it sure can't hurt to write that letter, and stay on top of it. they'll try to ignore you, give you the run around, but please remember, THE SQUEEKY WHEELS GETS THE OIL!! Fight for her. as with my son, as least they're safe from themselves..they can't abuse while locked up.
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I have had more than one bad experience with parole officers, and IMO, they're useless. I'm sure there are rare ones, but most of them just kill time until retirment.
We had a former cellmate of my son live with us for a year when he was paroled. He is black, we are not. His PO's, who all happened to be black, treated me like crap until one day I went off and reminded the jerk that the kid's parents wouldn't take him, so I did. I also told him that if he was disrespectful to me in my home once more I'd have his job. He cooled his jets fast.
I've found that if your kid needs help you need to make a lot of noise. It took me two years an a visit to a county commissioner's office to get my son's knee surgery. Once I really raised heck it happened in a month.
Kick and scream a little. Your kid is worth it.
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she has to stay clean, or she will continue to get locked up - the two just go together, and sorry, but there is nothing u, a po or anyone else can do. your daughter has freedom of choice - and she has been making bad decisions. there are consequences for bad decisions. i would up locked up due to my drug addiction, i kicked meth in jail, got out and since i've been clean i have not been back to jail. my loving family, daugther and all the support that I had on the outside before I go locked up could not stop me from using drugs. ONLY ME. and I continue to do it - one day at a time. if ur info is correct in her pleas for help - she indeed was a dropped ball - however, SHE must now pick it up and RUN WITH IT. just try to convince her of that. If i had gotten released before my time, or not gotten arrested in the first place, i might be dead right now! hope u do not take offense to this. i mean well with it. and i feel your pain.
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