Families of Prisoners Support Group
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My Husband was sent to prison when I was 5 months pregnant. And since then its just been a really horrible experience. When He went to prison I just thought the pain was gonna kill me. On the 19th of this month I went to my ob after missing 2 appts. and discovered our baby had died due to an infection in the amniotic fluid and was undetected because I was missing my appointments.I havent been able to talk to my husband and wont be able to until next friday. He doesnt know our baby has died. I dont feel writing him a letter is the best choice because somethings cant be said in a letter. I dont know the right words and I dont know how to tell him. The longer I wait the worse it will be. Is there anyone who can give me advice maybe on how to handle this. I've never had someone I love in prison before so I cant imagine having news like that being locked up. Please help
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I am so saddened to hear of your tragic news. I know that no amount of words can take away your pain. I hope you are finding strength. I think that something of this magnitude needs to be discussed in person when your husband is able to have visits. Letters are way too impersonal for something so sensitive and phone calls are so limited that I am sure you and he would be better of in person to answer all questions and receive support. I wish you the best.
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Back in 2000 my son 19 was in court for his 22 conviction, the biggest criminal negligence causing death. At the same time his dad had died. What I did is phone and talk to the chaplin at the pretrial and explained the situation. I did not know how to tell my son that his father had died. So when I got to tell him the chaplin was there. At the same time he got to understand how the family of the man that died,because at the same time his own father had died. So maybe you can do that have the chaplin where your husband is. To support you both with this devistating news. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Take care, Susan
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thanks to both replies. The only problem with waiting to tell him in person, I dont know how long that will be. And he always asks me about the baby in his letters and I have been dancing around the subject. I have thought about calling the chaplain. I called one time for another issue and he told me that he can only give my husband a message, that he cant call me so I dont know what to expect when i call. Thanks again
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I just wanted everyone to know that I was able to talk to my husband today. I didnt get anywhere with chaplain services so I called his ut counselor and he immediately got my husband on the phone. He handled it better than I thought he would and how sad that I doubted him. I feel a huge relief and am grateful to everyone that responded so thanks. So now that I've told my husband maybe it will be easier to tell my sisters too cause I havent done that either
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