USE YOUR HEAD,,, You have to worry about yourself,remember you are not locked up,let him see what you go thru,i would ask him what he is doing with his money...
GOD BLESS FROM CATHY

hey hun well all i can say is ask him if he still wants a home to come home to and i don't mean you leaving him i mean bills. maybe that will get through to him.

I agree wholeheartedly with cathyb53 & harmony1224 that you need to make him fully aware of the money situation.
You really do have to worry about yourself FIRST! Since there is nothing else you can do for him right now, (he's going to serve the time so you can't fight it) let him know you are always there for him but you occasionaly need a shoulder for support too. (Be SPECIFIC in telling him what you need!) If you need to talk to anyone other than friends/family please write me. (I check emails at least 2X daily & can usually respond by the next day.)
Good luck & I hope to hear from you soon.

I understand you and my husband does that same with me only that he plays the guilt trip act on me. I just tell him firmly that I can't so he has to deal with it. He's done it less and less since i put my foot down. Hope this helps

Unfortunately I think they forget our side of life. I'm guessing it can be easy to be "self centered" when your in there and don't see anything else. I have gone through the whole money situation with my man and had to put my foot down ever so lovingly. He is better about it. We do need to be sensible because unfortunately if we dont take care of ourselves and only consider their feelings we are not helping them and I think putting them and what they wanted first got us where we are all at. Atleast that was part of my problem. If I had stood my ground it would have been more helpful to him than what I did (he is an addict). Don't get me wrong I know he made his own choices and is now in prison. I love him to pieces and will stand by him as long as he tries and part of his recovery has to be learning NOT to be selfish all the time.

HI ALI (?)I HAVE BEEN THOUGH THIS MANY TIMES WITH MY SON,IN THE BEGINNING HIS FATHER WOULD GIVE HIM $100,00 A MONTH. FOR WHAT!!! THEN HE WANTED A TV FOR HIS CELL AND HEAD PHONES AND YOU HAVE TO BUY THE TV FROM THE PRISON THAT CAME TO $230.00..WHAT HAPPENED TO GETTING REHABILITAED??? NOW DON"T GET ME WRONG HE DID NEED SOME $ ON HIS BOOKS FOR EXTRAS BUT...SO THEEN HE WAS GETTING $ OCASSIONALY AND HAD TO LEARN TO BUGET,HE WAS HAVING ANOTHER INMATE IRON HIS SHIRTS AND PANTS AND PAYING HIM WITH SNAKS FROM THE COMMISARY. I DIDN"T IRON HIS CLOTHES WHEN HE WAS HOME!!! SO I GUESS WHAT IM TRYING TO TELLYA IS YOUR ON A BUDGET HE HAS TO BE ON ONE ALSO IF YOU CARE TO TALK MORE MY E-MAIL IS .......SUSANNA_DEAR@YAHOO.COM ..GODS BLESSINGS TO YOU

hey i feel your pain my mom is always calling and asking for things the best thing to is tell him and stop running to his side he'll understand that its his fault for being there so why should you have to carry the burden

I don't have any advice and can only understand. My daughter is serving a minimum of 5 years and has currently served 2. She also goes thru the selfish stages and I gently remind her that she is the one who committed this crime ... no one else. As you say, this is ok for a bit and then she begins again. Her 2 children are with our oldest daughter since her husband has been incarcerated as well. We're a good family and can't understand what led her to do what she did. She doesn't think we do enough for her which makes all of us resent the situation all over again. The prison is 45 minutes away which isn't far but she expects so much from all of us. The process of visitaiton is grueling sometimes and all of our emotions run extremely high. All we do is one day at a time even though as it has been said before, we're all "doing" the time with her!!
Peace and prayers to you!