It's confirmed. Charlie told me he sent the visiting form out for his ex. She, his daughter, and his brother live less than a half hour from the prison. I can understand his daughter and brother, but not the ex. She's single! I posted this a few weeks ago about how I question whether they are really divorced at all. But, even if they are divorced, we all know things can be through understanding, and not on paper. What concerns me is how quick he was to jump to send the form without considering how I feel about it, since I'm 3-4 hours away and can't visit because of my responsibilities literally 7 days a week to survive so he has a "home" to come home to. I get the feeling the loyalty stems farther in her direction that to me. It's my gut feeling. I know one thing--if I were in prison, the LAST person I would go to for comfort would be an EX. I've got 3 of those too! (So does he). Suddenly, I feel like a doormat. I do all the work for him -none of them do anything to help him but show up-no money, no phone calls, no letters, or anything. What's wrong with this picture? Tell me the truth about what any of you would do if it were you in this situation! And, he may decided to go live with the daughter and the ex in 4 mos, remember, to get out of prison. I am so upset, I cut off his phone calls for now. He was yelling at me over the phone last Friday night about me not doing every single thing he requested in his letters. (Bad sign).(Note: my third husband's ex was his prima donna too..and we divorced because of it-reality is what it is-I know when something is a no-win.He's back on her turf now.)What's ironic is he has been questioning ME about where I have been which was only doing things I have to get done, and he sends a form to his single ex. The nerve! I guess it's true-love the one your "with." It's like the year and a half we lived together meant very little to him in the big picture of life. I can't believe this.
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