Families of Prisoners Support Group
This community is dedicated to families that have been disrupted by prison. Having a loved one incarcerated or having been incarcerated comes with its own unique challenges that require support and understanding. Join the group to find others who know what you're going through, and to seek advice or share your experience.
This is only "food for thought". Not intended to be harsh nor to suggest that this is absolute. LOTS of us post the "what should I do" question. When I receive blunt answers to my posts it never phases me because I realize these are opinions. And thanks to all of you who answer my posts. But so often I've noticed there is much criticism when it comes to responses concerning whether or not a person should wait for someone imprisoned. Let me say this. I was married to a man, we had just had a baby boy. I was home recovering from a C-section with the staples still intact and his girlfriend phoned our home. Needless to say, I filed for divorce. I said that to say this. I was married with a brand new baby and my husband was cheating. There are unfaithful men in this FREE world. Always have been and always will be. And yes, there are some in prison that do not have true intentions upon their release. Here is my thing. I've told Clemon that I will wait for him. But, the first time he messes up. I'm kicking him to the curb. Just as I would do a free man. Simply because a man is incarcerated does not imply that he has not or can not change. Besides, every man imprisoned wasn't a bad person prior to going in. Most just made a bad decision or choose. Thanks, Renee'
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
For me, as a survivor of a violent sexual assault (at 15) and the mother of a 14 year old daughter, I cannot reconcile what he has done. He managed to go and do what is for me, the only deal breaker he could have. This does not mean that I love and support him any less, just that I cannot stay married to him. I still see him twice a week, I still make sure that he has money on his books, and I still write him daily. Other than the frequency of visits once he is sentenced and sent to a state prison this will not change. I do this because he was and still is my best friend.
Ray was so darn sweet while incarcerated, even when he got out he was a real sweetheart to me, we were together though only 4 months, always told him while he was in prison, I know I will not lose you to another woman, but one day I will lose you to drugs, and I did. After 8 long months he came back once again I forgave him, with in a month he left again, this time not stealing from me, that was 2002, don't even know if he is alive or not, he was a junkie.
In the mean time I worked things out with my husband, if he ever makes it out, will we make it, who knows? I think we might, am I going any where, "NO", why one would wonder, my 24 year old, he worked with her so well, that is dad to her, and he will not cheat on me, he outgrew that foolishesness.
It depends on the person, I have found through out the years more kindness from men in prison, then men out here. At least the men I have befriended through out the years. At least they don't want to get in my pants, and most men out here, thats all they think of, well that has been my experiences any way. We are basically here for the same reason,and we are all adults here that should be able to accept constructive opions, as well as mutual advice you could say.
We are who we are, we love who we love.......
Lynn
You have my blessings..
EllaBlue
That was a powerful statement. I want to say to everyone. All of you are just a great bunch of people. I appreciate each of you. But above all, I except and respect each persons comments. God Bless you all. Renee'