
Families of Prisoners Support Group
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So far my Thanksgiving weekend has been great but it is leaving me feeling very guilty that I'm having fun and my man is sitting in that place just waiting for the ball to drop. I talked to him yesterday morning, but then I left town and I'm not near a phone he can reach me at. I will not get to hear from him till Sunday and even then you never know what will prevent that from happening. I just don't want him to be sitting there thinking I'm betraying him in some way. I'm in the same town as my soon-to be ex lives in and I know the thoughts that my sweetie will probably be having, even though I have told him 9000 times I'm over the ex and would never go back down that path. It is likely that his extradition will happen very soon and then I will not be able to see him till who knows when. We are both going through a very difficult time believing that our relationship can survive this. I am sure of myself when it comes to my promise to stand by him, he is not so sure I will. I'm soooo afraid that I will keep my promise but he will not feel the same way about me when this is over. I don't want to feel so scared but I am
only a few people in my life know what has happened so a good game face is required at most times. How do you deal with guilt and fear??
only a few people in my life know what has happened so a good game face is required at most times. How do you deal with guilt and fear??
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What I can say is that you have to try hard to put those doubts to the back of your mind, and focus on the good things. I know what you mean about a "good game face" I have to do it too.. Good game voice more like it... I have to try and make sure he knows I'm ok, and that things are good even though emotionally I'm a wreck. I just have to remember that he doesn't have the outlets I have with friends and being able to go to a movie and just get away from it all for a few hours.
I didn't talk to him yesterday at all because the movie I went to started too late, but I chose to go ahead and see it and told him to call me today... He was fine with that.. And the movie really did take my mind off things for a bit..
So just know it's ok to have a good time, smile and laugh.. And it's also ok to feel guilty about it too. That's human nature, and in time that guilt feeling will lesson as you grow more used to the fact that he's in jail. I still feel guilt, but not as often and not as bad. At first I wouldn't smile or laugh at anything, and that will make you go crazy..
Holidays are a terrible time even without dealing with not having your loved one nearby at hand... So I've just given in to the fact that holidays and special days are going to be hard, I'm going to get depressed, and that's ok with me (heck I am actually sleeping some now that I'm depressed LOL).
Everything will work out the way God has planned... That you can be sure of... So just try not to worry yourself sick, and have a good time.
If he is feeling insecure all you can do is reassure him from time to time, but sitting in your room waiting for him to come home is not an option. Have fun.
Maybe this will be incentive for him to not return to prison when he comes home...knowing you've waited.