I am so angry right now at K's family...I think the light finally came on for me this weekend. I ended up taking his Dad to the hospital because he has been sick. First off, I was totaly offened by the way he acked with the nurses and the Doctors, at one point one of the Doctors asked if this was his NORMAL personality and I was like yes...the light came on....yes it is. It really embarrassed me. He acked like a total jerk and then I heard that they had actually asked him to leave the other hospital and thats why he went home still sick.. He wouldn't do anything they told him to to save his life, litterally, save his life because he is so stubborn. Then when I called his son, K's brother to tell him he told me that he couldn't come up because he had to go home and have a beer.... I was like... are you kidding me? I had to ask him twice before he finally agreed to come and take care of his own father..... I have always known his parents were a bit odd, and I accepted them anyway but this weekend something just snapped in me. Now I am thinking have I really been so blind to all this dysfunction... I just thought it was the way he acted to be funny... No, this is the way they they act in an ADULT situations...So then K called today and I told him about his dad and how all this had made me feel and what his brother did....he just laughed and said thats just how they were. What??? did I miss something??? I guess I have been living with blinders on. Then we started talking about were we would live when he got out because we had talked about moving away from this city. He then said something about staying around to take care of his parents... man I just snapped and started telling him that if they (his Dad and Mom) would have been half a parent he may not had been in the situation he was in and I told him how unfair and horriable his parents treated him in the past and that I would not be doing anything for them or any of his family any more....Then I went on to tell him none of his Kids had been to see him, his Father had not been to see him, nor write to him and that they did not deserve him and no wonder he ended up there..... When I hung up he was crying and telling me I know, I know, and that I was the only one he wanted to come home to because they are like that....but just before that he had said he wanted to take care of them...he told me his Mom was trying now, and I said ya after pretty much abondoning you for 30 years, where was she before????? I didn't mean to upset him, and I think he needed to hear it.......I am so mad at them for not being there for him and mad at him for still wanting to take care of them.....Why am I feeling like this and is it wrong?
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