First let me say, I so feel your pain right now because I have been there. Processing takes a certain amount of time. I didn't think I would hear from my daughter for a month and she called me within a week of being in her new prison. They do medical and classify them and get their visiting lists together. I didn't send her anything until she wrote me with her number and spec address. Once you find out where he is, then you can check out their website. Try not to worry too much, he will get in touch as soon as he is able...so with that said, my prayers are with you and your family and specially for Eddie. We are in this together...hugs.

I think that this is one of the hardest time of in the process. I will say that you need to write as often as you can. I bet you can get his address and number in the next day or so that way he knows you know he is there. I will also say that it will be tough until you hear from him. You are in my prayers.

Continue to keep checking with the site. They are by law suppose to update every 24 hours. Nationally it is at 4p.m. When it shows his update contact the facility or see if they have information online for sending money and visitation forms. Many DOC sites have that readily available. You should be able to know something by tomorow at least.

Just keep thinking positive things right now. I know that is hard but if you can it will make the waiting easier.

Don't allow the bad thoughts to come in and stay....kick them out...stay very busy! Cry of course, but don't stay down, it is harder to get back up. You know what I mean. It would be easy to go to bed and never get up, but that is not a good option. Fight the blues before it hits harder.

Even in weeks to come, reach out for help if you need the encouragement......keep you and Eddie in the forefront of our minds.
Sometimes so many come in quick we don't want to miss helping ones because we are busy with them that we forget those recently imprisoned after trial or plea.

So reach out whenever you are down Barb. I know with myself I want to help so many but grief scrambles your thoughts and histories become blurred. And thoughts so mixed up.Shopping lists are no longer possible in the head. You walk in the door and viola you forget everything.

That also brings up....write down stuff for yourself...you will have distracted thoughts and have difficulty remembering things
.....that does get better.

You will have grief spurts but remember...he is alive. His life or yours is not over. Many peoiple do fine.....Eddie probably will too.

Well...you know I wish he was with you instead. For now...that is not to be....
someday he will again...maybe sooner than you think.

Anytime you know where I am. Here!
Usually! LOL!
Love ypou Barb!

One last thing to help keep the spirits up work out...walk briskly 20 minutes a day. Get those endorphins doing some of the good spirits stuff for you...makes it easier to do what you have to. Get rest, drink soups. Treat as if ill. Be very kind to yourself. And get lots of love from friends.

Love Rhea

I know it's a numb feeling you have right now... and you don't really know what to do next... but Rhea gave you some really good advice. Just let us know when you are having a bad day.... we are here to do whatever we can to cheer you up!!! I will keep your family in my prayers.

Yup! keep checking the website and he'll show up, and in the mean time keep writing to him; he'll be thrilled to get a book from you to read when he finally gets settled in.

Thank you all so very much for you help.....Love, Barbara and Eddie