Can you explain what "sex offender probation" is please? Welcome to this group as well! I know you will feel welcome here.

Sex offender probation is also known as the 10th circle of hell. Basically, he's not allowed to be at my house. He can't ever be around my daughter. He has to go to psychotherapy every week. He has to report to his officer twice a month. He's not allowed to go to the mall with me, the movies, mcdonald's, the hospital. he can't go to a public pool, water park, six flags, anything like that. the only way he could is if i or someone else, like his mom, went through 2 months of chaperone classes through the county and psychotherapy. i tried to but his officer kicked me out because i was so sick that day i had to go to the er cuz i accidentally overdosed on tylenol. bad luck.

and thank you for the welcome. i needed it..

I'm sorry but your journal says the "girl" was 15 and that her dad should have been keeping closer tabs on her? and "He just had the rotten luck of sleeping with the wrong girl with a crazy dad"... Ummm... I think I'm going to refrain from making any comments about this one.
All i can say is this.. Between him and her which one was suppose to act like a responsible adult..
I'm sorry, but I can't feel sorry for him. No matter how "slutty" she was dressed or how she came onto him.

And I guess I'm not really sorry for my opinion or for being unable to post it.

Oh yeah.. You are the only one that can choose what is right for you and for your child. And I do think that him being on probation of any kind means this is a good group for you to post in. (I didn't want my post to be totally unhelpful)

Sorry me again... Here's another helpful place you might visit:
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=101

If the link doesn't work it's www.prisontalk.com join for free and then in the search type in loving a sex offender. You will find a lot of other people facing the same challenges you are.

Aw, that was kind of tough for someone who just joined and is in obviously a lot of pain. This has to be weighing heavily on her and must be unbearable to live with. I know it is a touchy subject when rape, molestation, child pornography is discussed, but I think we owe her a fair chance here to try to understand what she is going through. She did no crime here - her bf did - now, she has to make up her mind about what she is going to do about it. She is reaching out for help.

Wow> I wonder if it were your daughter if you would be so cold. She the CHILD is the victim regardless of how much you love your boyfriend. How can you be mad at a CHILD. Yeah she did a teenage thing and spread her legs as you say. Her dad being crazy is a Natural reaction that any parent would when a grown behind MAN takes advantage of a CHILD. I'm sorry that you are missing your man. But Get it straight it was wrong, not at all her fault. Your man made the decidion to go there regardless of her spread legs. Just because she opened her legs if he acting like an adult this would have never happend and you wouldn't be missing him right now. I hope you find peace in this situation. Put the anger where it's suppose to be..on your man. and Protecting your children. Imagine living without them. That should matter more than amy man. Still like I said from one mother to another I wish you well. Mommy needs to o.k so the kids can be o.k I'm praying for you.

I know it was tough... It's a touchy subject for me. Personal subject... but i did include a great site where she can find others in the exact situation she is in.. It just reads like she's blaming the girls father and that the b/f had no wrong doing..

Again it's a very personal subject for me.. And after I posted my first response (which was written from emotion) I was able to come back and add with a clearer mind a place she could get some answers in addition to here.

I've said many times that I am blunt. I can't help that.

How old was your boyfriend when he slept with the 15 year old girl?

I think kottonkandie deserves a little break. You don't all know the story so maybe you shouldn't be so quick to judge. I'm sure you're not all perfect either. Kottonkandie needed a little bit of support because she is going through a hard time, maybe we could resort to that nice little rule our parents taught us "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all." Besides, there are men that are wrongly convicted of rape. My husband was 17 and having sex with his high school girlfriend. He turned 18 2 months before she turned 16 and he got statutory rape. Then she accused him of rape when he left her. She has accused nearly 10 men of rape and 3 have been convicted. I'm sorry but I know one person who was raped one time, I have never heard of one person getting raped 10 times....some women lie...they are immature and others like kottonkandie and myself have to pay for it because God destined us to fall in love with these men that we know are wonderful. You don't know them so you shouldn't judge them, that is God's job.