I recently discovered my 15 year old son has been in a sexual relationship with another boy for some time. He tells me he is gay and the boy is his boyfriend. We live in a small conservative community and this has been very difficult for me. I have found a lot of information online about how to handle my feelings and we are taking it day by day. But thats not why Im posting this; I dont know how to handle this relationship(?). I am very uncomfortable with the thought that he is already having sex at 15. I told him he is too young and they must stop immediately (I would do this with my straight son as well). My fear is that now that the sex genie is out of the bottle, if I try to block this relationship he will turn to more risky behavior. My son has also become very withdrawn and I am concerned about his mental health. The second issue is I know the boyfriends family and they are very religious and my son has begged me not to tell them. If I did, Im sure the relationship would end. Something tells me that I should allow my son to have this relationship (so long as they promise not to have sex), but to do that I would be an accomplice to this secret. It feels unethical. HELP.
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