Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
My husband is a heroin addict, pretty bad. He was at the point of having sold everything we owned including my wedding set. I had told him I would leave him, but he got worse.
Finally I just ran for my life. He left mesages saying he did not know what to do. He said he would do whatever he had to not to loose me and the kids (not his). We have not spoken since mid February. I told him to go into rehab and contact me after he is finished.
He left message that he was going to rehab. Gave me a new phone number for a cell phone he bought near rehab.
I call the number and get voicemail saying the voice mail has not been activated. He has not contacted me since and I keep picturing him laying dead somewhere.
Commom sense in me says he has to make the moves to rebuild our relationship, but guilt says to do something so he does not die.
I need clear thinking so I do not follow emotions, but make a good decision for me and my kids.
Finally I just ran for my life. He left mesages saying he did not know what to do. He said he would do whatever he had to not to loose me and the kids (not his). We have not spoken since mid February. I told him to go into rehab and contact me after he is finished.
He left message that he was going to rehab. Gave me a new phone number for a cell phone he bought near rehab.
I call the number and get voicemail saying the voice mail has not been activated. He has not contacted me since and I keep picturing him laying dead somewhere.
Commom sense in me says he has to make the moves to rebuild our relationship, but guilt says to do something so he does not die.
I need clear thinking so I do not follow emotions, but make a good decision for me and my kids.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
My ex recently did the same thing as your husband, I did find him, he is living with another woman who will enable him. i'm not saying that is where you AH is, i'm just saying addicts can be very manipulative. So you have to take everything they say with a grain of salt until they prove they mean what they say.
I know in the mean time this is driving you crazy, it was driving me crazy we can imagin all kinds of scenario's. But this is the facts, either he's getting help or he's not. Either he really wants his family or he will choose the drug.
I would call rehab first, if he's not there you can always file a missing person's report. My heart goes out to you, its only with two years of counseling I didn't let what ex did to me ruin all the progress I had made.
Hugs
Good on you for ending the insanity and dramas in whatever way you could. I hope things improve one way or another for you.