
Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
What am I supposed to do now?

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My exboyfriend who I am still very close to and very much in love with broke up with me a week before he told me... for the majority of our relationship he has been addicted to pain killers. I've been around this shit with my last boyfriend and his friends so I was completely shocked to hear him say this. (Everyone knows I am anti-drug and don't want it around me). He entered rehab on his own and has recently been released. I am angry with him and angry at myself for not knowing. I don't blame myself for what he did (that is all him) but I still can't believe I had no idea. This is the guy I planned on spending the rest of my life with and his addiction ruined our relationship and broke my trust.
We still talk every day (even while he was in rehab) and my problem is that I love him still. My family can not understand why I stick around and why I continue to set myself up for disappointment. To be honest I don't understand it either. I had a way out and I can still just walk away from him. I don't know what to do... do I listen to my parents and cut him out of my life or do I follow my heart and love an addict for the rest of my life?
We still talk every day (even while he was in rehab) and my problem is that I love him still. My family can not understand why I stick around and why I continue to set myself up for disappointment. To be honest I don't understand it either. I had a way out and I can still just walk away from him. I don't know what to do... do I listen to my parents and cut him out of my life or do I follow my heart and love an addict for the rest of my life?
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What do you do though? Well, the easy thing to say is just get rid of him completely. But the easy thing just never works, especially when love is involved. I think that if he checked himself into rehab, then maybe he has a better chance than most to come clean. And it could very possibly be that your love and support might help him through. Or at least knowing that you will be there for him when he does come clean. It's just the question you have to ask yourself. Do you love him enough to very possibly make your life a living hell? If not, than you have your answer. If so, than you are in the same boat as me, my friend, and I don't have any answers.
Maybe he'll relaspe Maybe he wont. Would you bet your life on it? Your young whats the hurry? Good Luck and GOD BLESS