Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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Help me out here. I fell in love with her when she was high on Vicodin. I've fallen in love with her all over again sober.

The problem is that she was so much easier to deal with when she was loaded. I had to really mess up to make her mad. I always got my way and won every argument, even when I knew I was wrong.

I discovered her relaps because she got way to easy with me and the kids.

Don't get me wrong. I won't stay with her high any more. I just want to vent a little and am wondering if any of you have had the same feelings. Actually missing the easy plyable doper from time to time.

Oh, by the way, tommorow is 60 days sober. The last time I gave her 60 roses. Think I'll do it again.

I'm way too happy now, even with the actual effort I am now having to put into a relationship with a sober person. She is worth it all.
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6bagsfull
Recovery is a very stressful time for an addict. We have alot of issues to deal with. All the issues we did not deal with when we were using, the guilt of being an addict, learning to cope with a brain that is trying to heal, depression, ....etc. It will get better. If she would have continued to use it would get really bad eventually. addicts lose all reasoning skills. Many times we cause cause damage to our brains that may or may not repair. Hang in there. I am clean just over a year & feal like I am just now getting better
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i give you alot of credit for sticking with her through this. out of my 3 family members moody is not even the word for them. my mom who i deal with more is super mom one day, and down and depressed the next. i have learned from all of them to spot right away what "mood" they are in. i in a sense walked on eggshells growing up because of the ups and down of addiction now i walk on eggshells with the mood swing of there recovery and the up and downs of that.

to be honest yes i too like my mom better when she would pop her pills but then when she would run out i would not here from her for days because she had the "flu". atleast now i know she is not doing as much damage to herself and that she will not OD.

recovery is not just a change for the addict. it involves everyone part of the addicts life. for us we too need to learn how to cope with it and it is not easy. as time goes on it gets easier. you sound as though you are coping well. she will constantly be changing also as her recovery progresses.
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along with recovery comes emotions. My family all said I was easier to deal with HIGH then when I was an emotional roller coaster. Thank God that these things do pass with time and healing.
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She is very lucky to have you. This is a very difficult time in her life - love and support is vital to recovery.

I hope it all works out for you both.
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Good luck.
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I am so glad that your loved one is in recovery. She has a chance a life now. I do have to say that I understand what you mean about her personality maybe making her easier to deal with but in no way is addiction easier to deal with, especially when it progresses to the point where it takes out everything in it's path. And it does.

Supporting our loved ones when they are in recovery is a very loving thing to do, but the most important thing that we need to do is nourish "our" recovery, because addiction is a family disease. Only they can work at getting themselves well,and only we can do the same.
Blessings to all of you. I will hold you close in my prayers..
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