Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
i joined here a while ago but this is my first actual post.. i would like to share my situation and if u feel up to it please give me your opinion.. i am told i have a closed mind on this situation.. i feel i have a right to be stern and unfriendly in it..so here it is...
My cousin and his wife are addicts.. pills, booze.. ya know basics. after my aunt and uncle died they got the house .. they have 3 wonderful little girls, who now are in the states custody and have been for months. they are clean now or atleast trying to be. they take their prescribed meds and thats all.. my cousin although has stolen meds major meds from myself and my sister.. they were living in a homeless shelter for a while because they have no electric at their house because the bill is over a grand.
now they are staying at my sisters (yes the one he stole pills from and other things) neither have a job and all they do is sit around allday mooching stuff and when they are told to do things or get a job there is always an excuse .. my sister is determined to "help" them because none of our other family will... me on the other hand feel if they stole to start with they will again and to do nothing but mooch is the worst thing.. he hasnt kept a job has had a few and always quits after a couple days..
how can someone be so lazy and mooch all the time and not care that they will never have their kids back because they are not doing what needs to be done.. am i looking at this wrong or do i have a right to not want to be involved with them.. it really is hurting that it is like this .. i dont even spend hardly any time at my sisters now because i dont want to be around them .. i am the one who always has to say get off your ass and do something....
so there it is i am sure i could add a couple more lines or 50 but thats the most of it.. much love and hugs to u all...
My cousin and his wife are addicts.. pills, booze.. ya know basics. after my aunt and uncle died they got the house .. they have 3 wonderful little girls, who now are in the states custody and have been for months. they are clean now or atleast trying to be. they take their prescribed meds and thats all.. my cousin although has stolen meds major meds from myself and my sister.. they were living in a homeless shelter for a while because they have no electric at their house because the bill is over a grand.
now they are staying at my sisters (yes the one he stole pills from and other things) neither have a job and all they do is sit around allday mooching stuff and when they are told to do things or get a job there is always an excuse .. my sister is determined to "help" them because none of our other family will... me on the other hand feel if they stole to start with they will again and to do nothing but mooch is the worst thing.. he hasnt kept a job has had a few and always quits after a couple days..
how can someone be so lazy and mooch all the time and not care that they will never have their kids back because they are not doing what needs to be done.. am i looking at this wrong or do i have a right to not want to be involved with them.. it really is hurting that it is like this .. i dont even spend hardly any time at my sisters now because i dont want to be around them .. i am the one who always has to say get off your ass and do something....
so there it is i am sure i could add a couple more lines or 50 but thats the most of it.. much love and hugs to u all...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If they were you would see it and they would be going head strong towards getting the kids back.
They have falling into the trap of being lazy and others picking up their slack. They will bring your sister down. There is a reason rest of the family won't help them..........
their kids r so better off here they are now.. my sister is the type to try and help whoever she can.. sometimes thats good and others it isnt.. u would think she would have learned when he stole 29 of her morphin tabs..not to mention all the other stuff stolen.. thanx for your inputs on this i feel better..**hugs**
I know this must be hard for you, but detaching is the best thing that you can do for you. There is nothing that says you have to expose yourself to this behavior and NOT being a part of it, I think is wise. You can certainly love your sister and not agree with her choices.
Blessings..
EllaBlue
out of the house by 9AM and not back in until 3 pm, when they will start preparing dinner. They should have responsibilities and required meetings - just like in a sober-living environemnt. If they don't follow the rules - there are consequences - they live on the street. Sometimes helping them - is simply helping them hit bottom faster.
STAY STRONG.
you would think losing their kids would have been a wake up call.. but i guess not.. they do have parenting classes they go to everyweek .. and they sometimes go to NA meetings but other then that they are lazy..