I have been with my boyfriend now for 3 yrs. He truly is one of the kindest people I've ever known. We do have a great relationship between the two of us.....BUT he comes with mucho baggage. He has 3 kids with his ex( they've been separated fro 7 yrs) Still working on the divorce. She the Ex is an alcoholic who has had remissions for months at a time. She is a also a bulemic, anorexic and has Bi polar and borderline personality. They share custody of the kids...ages 14, 11 and 8. It is currently 50/50. Two yrs ago she lost custody of the kids for DWI with all 3 kids in the car. He and I had them for 8 mos and then they went back to court and she was able to regain 50/50. My boyfriend doesn't want to take the kids away from their mother. The kids want it to stay as it is as well. The problems are the kids have many many issues as well. The 14 yr old is Bipolar and borderline as well. She is off the wall half the time and needs to go back into the psychiatric hospital...she is protective of her mother and her mother is big time drinking again. She became so drunk 2 weeks ago that she became unresponsive, blue/gray color and the paramedics were called bey her brother who found her. The daughter came home from school and walked into the scene as well. Then she did it again last week....the daughter came home from school and was supposed to be taken by her Mom to a counseling appt and her Mom drove up to the house drunk as a skunk. I did call CPS(child protective) myself...they said that the 14 yr old was not in danger because she could care for herself. The other 2 boys were still at school so they were not involved in either scene. My boyfriend has given her many many chances and warnings....he is reluctant to push things further. they're are constant phone calls from the Ex she can't handle this or that with the kids...she calls at any time. I absolute despise her and what she has done to these kids and our relationship. I'm angry at him for having 3 kids with an insane alcoholic. He knew after the first child that there were problems and yet he stayed and 2 more kids with her. If I didn't love him so much...I would be out of here. This believe me is just the tip of the iceburg as far as what goes on....it seems to consume me..and I have my own health issues..so I don't have a lot of energy to spare. But I'm always there for him and the kids. I know that I rant and rant....Sigh....help!
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