My addict is dealing with "co- dependency" issues at the moment. I am the main person he is co-dependent on and so basiclly he has placed these boundries up and has to talk to his group about anything that concerns me/ us. I really do understand the importance for him to learn to fix his own problems and to rely on no one but himself. However a thought crossed my mind. In some sence it is natural for him to lean on me. We have been best friends for 6 years and were togeather for about 5. With out the piece of paper that would make us married,( and i don't belive in marriage being a piece of paper) i think of him as any wife would think of her husband. He is my love, my soul, we are part of each other that cannot be helped. SO here is my question. TO the wives... When you husband was in recovery what were the boundries set to break the co-dependency that your husband had on you?? they couldn't tell you to leave his life or "take some time" as i feel thats what they have basiclly said to me? Your legelly his wife? What did you guys do? I would love to know..thanks shutikka
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