I have been very disturbed by some of the replies that I have seen lately in this community. There are some people who tell the members to do nothing but leave and run away-that addicts won't change. How do you know that??? Leaving should be a last resort after ALL other options have failed. ADDICTS ARE NOT TRASH AND SHOULD NOT BE THROWN AWAY AS IF THEY WERE!!!!! Addiction is a disease and it needs treatment and support just like any other disease. I certainly would not have left my husband if he had developed lung cancer after years of smoking cigarettes. I would have taken him to the doctor and stayed by his side while he was treated. You will say that addicts are sick by their own choosing, well the same can be said of 95% of all disease. Heart disease can most of the time be prevented, but the person who suffers from it has made choices that led to the disease[not in ALL cases, ,mind you]. Cancer-Too much fat has been shown to cause breast cancer-are the negative nancys on here going to blame the patient? Are the negative people on this site going to attack all the people her for any other disease but addiction. It is easy to run around and give advice, but you need to make sure that it is helpful. All addicts are not going to remain that way. People are capable of change and here is where I am going to bring up the big gun. For those of you who think that you are so much better than addicts, you are wrong, I believe in GOD and he hates all sin equally, so your judging others is equal in HIS eyes to adddiction. You are no better than the junkie or the crack addict that you rail against constantly. We are here to SUPPORT and HELP. If you can't do that, then hush! You prey on the new members and tell them to run run run. Have you never committed a sin in your life? Wow, I would sure like to meet you because my Bible says that you don't exist. Whether you are a spouse, a parent, a sibling or a significant other-your loved one is not trash-they are capable of change. Ask yourself if they suffered from any other disease but addiction, would you feel the way you do? Get them REAL help and be supportive of them-they just might surprise you!!!! I am proud to say that I am a recovered addict-my experience allows my to feel sympathy for those who are going through the same thing I did. I am proud to say that I am the wife of a recovered addict-I can relate to other people and their pain and we do have a story to offer hope. I have been clean for more that 10 years now and my husband has been clean for almost 3-who says addicts can't change? I would LOVE to talk with you!!!
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