You can tell her that if she has a God necklace you might consider it but saints could be false idols. Ok thats bitchy but I know how you feel. Religion is a personal thing and a personal decision cos at the end of the day it's you and God and no one else. People shouldn't force their religions on you because they feel it's right. It may be right for them but not necessarily for you. Some people can be such hippocrates sometimes. Anyways you shouldn't let her get to you. She probably feels guilty for not teaching you about spirituality as a child and is trying to make up for it by forcing it upon you now that you are actually big enough and ugly enough to make up your own mind about such things.

It isnt so humorous if you understand her behavior manifested from her addiction. She may feel that this Saint can protect you where she cant or has failed to. Her ideation is very real to her and this may be her way of working through her failures with raising you as an addict. Talk to her, try to understand where she is coming from. Wearing the necklace will not commit you to hell for life but may give her some peace. Hugs

shelly4 has a point, but it's so hard when you are dealing with an addict, recovering or not, because all they do is think about themselves. maybe just take the necklace, you don't need to wear it, put it in your purse or on your dresser and thank her for caring.

there is no talking to her, ive tried that for the last three years. She blames anything and everything that has ever happend on anyone and everyone else. And tells me im a horrible person every chance she gets. Beleive i have tried, but she thinks theres something wrong with the world and none of its her. At this point i just dont talk to her and try to stay away from her whenever i can. I dont fight with people, when their nasty to me i just stay away from them. So now i just stay away from her period. She makes things up in her mind and thinks about it so much untill she actually believes it even if its impossible so i just let her do what she wants and stay away, she comes to me with this bull. Ive tried to give her chance after chance for YEARS, and she hasnt changed at all.

If you feel confident that you have tried your best to make her happy, then wash your hands on her. I can understand your story so well. My mother left me at the age of 4 due to her drinking and partying. When I was 43, she decided to show up and try to be a mother. WRONG! She blamed my father for her leaving. He was the one who kept and raised all 4 of the children she left. I told my siblings that she must be getting ready to die because she hadn't cared about us for all of these years. So why now? Well 3 years ago she did die. I guess she wanted to make peace with me but it was to late. I do feel bad for you. If you need me, please write anytime.