Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Hello Everyone;
It's been awhile since I have written. Anyway, I wanted to update all of you, b/c you have been a major part in the development of my life. Not sure if you remember, but I was the women who left her husband that's addicted to heroin. I left approximately 3 months ago with my two young children, got out & moved to another state. Update: I found a job working in a medical office & the children are doing much better. My sanity is better b/c I am no longer stressing about supporting my children. We have a home to live in, my sister moved out with her fiancee, a car to drive, food on the table, clothes on our backs. The necessities in life & I must say that we are happy. We are doing very well. There are times when the girls ask about their father, who has not contacted since approx. 4 weeks ago. They have not heard from him & they ask. My 7 year old wrote a letter & he has not responded. I told them not to worry about it. That there father is missing out on the most precious moments of their lives, it's not their fault & they should not expect very much from him. My daughter relates to him as the new daddy & I said that's right, she misses her old daddy. They have stopped disrespecting me, since I have had the talk about how I am doing the best that I can & I am the only one supporting us & taking care of us. Unfortunately, they know the difference. They don't get as much as they use to (toys), we live on a limited budget & I explained to them that he is not sending money. I know they understand & I'm sad that they must realize this at such a young age, but they do. Anyway, I just wanted to say that we are doing well. PEACE OF MIND is the best cure for us. I definitely have peace of mind, I no longer worry about if I'm getting the phone call, do I have $ to pay the bills, the worrisome person has disappeared. Life is challenging raising two little girls on my own, but it was the BEST DECISION I could have ever made. WE ARE HAPPY & WE FEEL GREAT. Just thought I should update everyone & say THANKS AGAIN for all of your help. I appreciate all the warm kinds words of encouragement & all of the advice. Thanks Again & for those of you dealing with the same, I wish you the best of luck & I hope that all of us can have PEACE OF MIND. Thank You AGain.
It's been awhile since I have written. Anyway, I wanted to update all of you, b/c you have been a major part in the development of my life. Not sure if you remember, but I was the women who left her husband that's addicted to heroin. I left approximately 3 months ago with my two young children, got out & moved to another state. Update: I found a job working in a medical office & the children are doing much better. My sanity is better b/c I am no longer stressing about supporting my children. We have a home to live in, my sister moved out with her fiancee, a car to drive, food on the table, clothes on our backs. The necessities in life & I must say that we are happy. We are doing very well. There are times when the girls ask about their father, who has not contacted since approx. 4 weeks ago. They have not heard from him & they ask. My 7 year old wrote a letter & he has not responded. I told them not to worry about it. That there father is missing out on the most precious moments of their lives, it's not their fault & they should not expect very much from him. My daughter relates to him as the new daddy & I said that's right, she misses her old daddy. They have stopped disrespecting me, since I have had the talk about how I am doing the best that I can & I am the only one supporting us & taking care of us. Unfortunately, they know the difference. They don't get as much as they use to (toys), we live on a limited budget & I explained to them that he is not sending money. I know they understand & I'm sad that they must realize this at such a young age, but they do. Anyway, I just wanted to say that we are doing well. PEACE OF MIND is the best cure for us. I definitely have peace of mind, I no longer worry about if I'm getting the phone call, do I have $ to pay the bills, the worrisome person has disappeared. Life is challenging raising two little girls on my own, but it was the BEST DECISION I could have ever made. WE ARE HAPPY & WE FEEL GREAT. Just thought I should update everyone & say THANKS AGAIN for all of your help. I appreciate all the warm kinds words of encouragement & all of the advice. Thanks Again & for those of you dealing with the same, I wish you the best of luck & I hope that all of us can have PEACE OF MIND. Thank You AGain.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
And don't worry about the lack of toys and such. Your love for these kids are priceless, and you are teaching them a valuable lesson. I know how kids need time to adjust so I understand what you are saying..but again, you are giving those kids something that can never be measured in dollars.
(((Hugs))
EllaBlue
Thank you for sharing your story, it gives me faith in the future. Wishing you and your family the best of continued luck!