I think that is a great idea. Thank you so much for thinking of us!

good idea

I remember when I talked my parents into attending an ACOA meeting w/me. When we broke off into groups and people were sharing their experiences and their pain...Dad didn't get it. He explained to everyone that he was there just to please me, none of this applied to him because he 'really' didn't have any problems!

It was so obvious to everyone else, yet Dad just didn't see himself in any of it.

I remember reading somewhere that if you ask an addict's 'friend' how they're doing-- they will tell you the truth. The 'friend' will see the addict, yet they cannot see those same behaviors and problems in themselves.

I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound so pessimistic-- if it helps even one person then it is worth the try. I'm just tired of banging my head against the wall these days.

I somewhat agree with Kindr..
I don't know if addicts have the ability to even comprehend what they are doing to their friends and family. From my experience, it is not until they become healthy do they get outside of themselves and begin to care about anything but their DOC.

I think it would be a classic case of "you can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink." We as addicts and alcoholics have lucid moments when we fully know what we did to our loved ones and the guilt and the remorse is what keeps us sick. We keep using no matter what the cost to hide the pain we feel about ourselves and our loved ones. I think you make the suggestion but please dont put any expectation on anyone to see the light until they are ready.

Thank you for you feedback. Some of us in my community are sober for years and some are just starting. Some of us are "hiding" it. So we think. I don't have any expectations for anyone. Maybe it might help someone stay sober one more day. I'll wait till I hear from more of you before I suggest it to anyone. Thanx again to all of you who have replied so far.