Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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Im not sure why I torture myself with these thoughts....

I HAD to leave for my child. i couldnt let himgrow up that way, with an absent father- an alcoholic and sex addict. What kind of parent would I be to keep him around someone so ill. It terrified me.

i feel bad for taking him away, but also feel like I had to.

Someone please tell me i did the right thing?!! I hate that I feel powerless and that we didnt have a choice.
deleted_user
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I would of done the same thing if I was you. Your children come first and you need to do anything to protect them. I feel that you made the best choice for you and your child. I wouldn't leave him permanetly, just let him know you will return once he has gotten some help. I am saying this for the children's sake. They need their father in their lives. So tell him to get some help and be clean for a few months before you come back and see if he does. That would prove to you if he really cares. Well I wish you luck and hugs to you. Good luck!!
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Hi, You did the right thing.. Unless he gets help he will be no help to the child or children.. Addiction makes everyone suffer.. What if he put the child in the car when he was drinking.. I have a son who adores his child.. and when he is sober or not using hes the BEST.. but that is rare these days,, so the mother and child are not with him.. he is going down hill fast.. maybe when he hits rock bottom he will get help.. but until then I feel it's the best thing.. good Luck D
deleted_user
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You did the right thing! I too just left my husband of 10 yrs and took my 2 kids with me . He was addicted to pain pills, and I could NO longer live like that, it was not fair to me, or to my kids to have a father like that! He is seeing that life is nothing without his family and planning to go to residential treatment, so that is agood thing! I told him once he is out and gets his life together then we can start ours! You did the right thing!!
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you def. did the right thing.

you have helped to save your child from a lot of pain.

i wish my mom would have though enough about me and my sisters, to have done the same when I was younger.

by the time she did leave, the damage was already done though.

now i see the cycle keep repeating with all of my sisters....
deleted_user
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You did the right thing. You did a very unselfish thing. What you did was for the benifit of your child.

You should be proud. Your child has a great mother who cares alot about him.

Good for you.
mgs1
mgs1
Why does what other people think matter? You are the only one who knows whether you did the right thing or not. We are not here to judge you.
Stop giving this "rent-free space in your mind."
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