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Strong or Foolish

deleted_user
deleted_user
I was talking to someone yesterday and I was talking about my situation and how I feel good. I feel confident that today will be okay and I will face tomorrow when it gets hear.
Her response "that is not confidence that is foolishness!"

My problem with this was that I use to focus on all the negative. I use to worry constantly about how am I going to get everything done. I was so panic struck all the time that I would be overwhelmed and get this hopeless feeling.
Now I take it one day at a time. I say that everything is under control for today. If it isn't tomorrow I will deal with that tomorrow.

Am I wrong? I thought I was getting somewhere I thought that I was moving forward and now I feel that she might be right and I am just being foolish. Am I foolish?
joemm
joemm
6 of one, 1/2 a dozen of the other.
joemm
joemm
We all feel as you do sometimes.
There are good days and bad days. Hopefully the good start to out number the bad sooner or later. Keep at it, why worry about tomorrow?
Joe
P.S. your friend might have been having a bad day and feeling negative.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your friend is obviously a pessimist. People who take one day at a time, or live for today are NOT foolish. They are the smart ones who tend to have less stress. Perhaps your friend should be listening to YOU.
deleted_user
deleted_user
look at your user name... livingtoday? i think a lot more people need to take your lead and live through the tough times day by day. if you had no consideration for your future that'd be foolish, however dealing with your feelings, optimism, and stress needs to be a day to day process. forgive your friend for their pessimism, but do not consider yourself a fool.

good luck. keep your chin up today... and tomorrow. :)
mgs1
mgs1
It's hogwash. It's the way she views life in comparison to you. You could get down to finite details such as define "okay." As long as your day is manageable for you and you are comfortable, you define it. She can define her day however she feels.
I note you didn't say today would be perfect.
That shows you are also realisitic. Today will be okay, not perfect, just okay. Sounds good to me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think taking things one day at a time is what has started to help me get my life and feelings under control. Worry takes a lot of energy and does not accomplish anything. You're doing the right thing. Keep it up!
Lynnedz56
Lynnedz56
The basis of 12 step programs is "one day at a time". We live today and tomorrow will take care of itself. Now, that does not mean we do nothing about the future, but we don't live in the future. We don't worry about the future or dwell in the past. And LOTS of people live this way and have found success. You will find that as you change, some of your friends won't like it. And sometimes we change our friends. Keep doing what you are doing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She is a fool, I also take it day by day. If I don't wow does it get so overwelming real fast.All I know is try to deal with things the best way we can, and when we go to bed at nite and maybe it was not the best of days we go to bed and hope that tomorrow will be better than today.And on those days when everything feels good and all went well rejoice cause its a damn good feeling.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I feel better knowing that someone else agrees that I am doing what is best for me. In my heart I already knew it I guess I needed reinforcement. Thank You.
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