Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I am currently seperated from my christian husband. Porn addiction has been the ugly part of our married story for the last 17 years. We have served our church in ministry and in my codependency I have kept his struggle a secret except for with a few people. I have discovered many relapses over the last 17 years...with each time seeking help first from God, books, a few well intentioned christians and self help groups. He has made many promises and twice as many lies. He has betrayed me, deceived me and trust is completely broken now. For the past 1 yr and 1/2 I have been completely lost. I have even after a long strong walk with God wandered off to ways of escape from my pain through alcohol and nights out with friends...all has left me empty. I know God wants me close to Him and I am once again attempting his ways...although I have extended my husband much support, forgiveness, and mercy....I have built up anger and resentment towards him and God. Many broken dreams seem forever lost. I recently seperated leaving him my two teenage daughters. Because he would not leave himself to give me space. I am reaching out to some hope or someone who can share their story with a happy ending. I don't know how to bring myself back to that place of believing in him again...and ultimately in God's miracle working power in my shattered life!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I totally understand what you are going through, and unless a woman experiences this she will never understand the pain. I know how they become liars, then detach themselves from you and reality. They begin to live in their own seedy little world, and you eventually become an insignificant part of their life. Eventually they are unable to have normal relationships with their wives, and only porn can satisfy their sexual needs. It doesnt matter how attractive you are either. They gradually destroy themselves, hitting the gutter. My gods do I know as I am in the throes of divorce, after a 20 year marriage because of my ex-husbands porn addiction. It is one of the hardest addictions to cure too. The brain releases chemicals when they masturbate to the porn, and that is what they become addicted to. Just like drugs, alcohol etc. it causes a real addiciton. The counselling treatment is exactly the same as for alcoholics, the 12 step programme. BUT just like an alcoholic they have to admit they have an addiction first, and WANT to get help for themselves. They need to go to counselling, which thir dooctor can refer them to, they need to join Sexaholics Anonymous, which their is a good network of, and attend the meetings. They need help, as it can not be cured alone.So many marriages are being shattered by porn. I am not sure if I am allowed to give a link to other sites from in here? If you can find out if I am, then I can guide you to an absolutely brilliant site, that helps adicts, and all partners affected by it. My love I feel for you, the pain is unbearable, and unlike an affair with a real woman you just can't compete with these false porn images that have caused this. Yes it is adultry and infidelity. He prefers to these other women than his wife for. He prefers this type of fake relationship to reality.
God Bless.