I need your help. I just joined this site and am hoping to find others who share my experience. I have dated a guy off and on for 7 years. We have a 5-year old son together. He is addicted to Oxycontin. I have put up w/ him, broken up w/ him, kicked him out, let him back in, helped him, trusted him, believed him, tried, tried, tried, with all of my power to "fix" him. Last year, I went to therapy and learned that I can't fix anyone & I'm codependent for trying. So, we split up again - I told him to get it together. So, he worked a little harder and somehow managed to convince me that he was doing better. So, back he came - to pawn my jewelry, to steal my credit cards, to take pain medicine and money from his sick mother, to lie to me, and all the while he's in and out of our son's life. Finally, it all came crashing down last February. I'd had enough of his disappearing acts, sleeping for days at a time, not working, etc. and told him to leave. He wouldn't - we fought - I called the police. He had an outstanding warrant (not paying child support) and spent the next 105 days in jail. During which, he took the opportunity to write me letters detailing how sorry he was, how he was going to change, how he saw the error of his ways, how he loved me... blah, blah, blah. I believed him and convinced the Court to put him in Drug Court - a diversion program which requires supervision, drug testing, n/a or a/a meetings, counseling, etc. So, after his 105 days in jail, he was clean another 56 before he "found" an Oxy in an old shirt. He was sentenced to 14 days to be served on weekends. Before he finished that weekend sentence, he did another Oxy and is now waiting in jail permanently until a rehab bed opens up. He knew he would have to go to jail & rehab, but did NOT tell me - or our son. He just went in for the weekend as he has the past few weeks & hasn't come back. I feel like I should be done with this jack a** once and for all, but I'm also torn by feeling that he deserves a chance at a real, inpatient 30-day treatment program (which he's never had). Any advice???
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