I am seeing a man who recently admitted that up until a year ago he smoked marijuana daily and has on occasion used cocaine. I suspected that something wasn't right but thought it was related to the divorce he is going through. He has been seriously late and breaken dates and disappears for days. I know of two times he lied to me and now that I know of his drug use, I wonder if he is lying to cover up a continued drug problem but I have no way of knowing for sure because I only know what he chooses to tell me. He told me he wants to change. Since I met him he has quit smoking tobacco and started going to church. He appears to be trying to make changes but he is still socializing with friends who do drugs and he never invites me. Because of this I am skeptical. I was married to an alcoholic for 23 years so this is not new territory for me. I've been divorced for 6 years and have experience with the ala-non program. My past experience tells me to run like hell but I have feelings for this man. If I choose to continue to see him I need to stay detached. If this man isn't being truthful with me about quitting I know the relationship will do nothing but continue to cause stress in my life but right now I have no facts just suspicions. I'm not sure how to find out if he is still using drugs. My gutt tells me something is not right but I don't want to jump ship too soon.
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