I am a Christian Mom of a 13 yr old and a wife of a husband I once believed was a man gifted with righteousness and holiness. Women in our Bible study would comment how he was my rock. In June I found out he was loosing his job of 20 yrs after testing positive for marajuana. I immedialty forgave knowing I too had done many a wrong thing in my life. I picked up the phone and asked to go to full time at my long time job at a Level I Trauma ER where I was a pool RN. We had a great life and because I had lupus I was working only pool after 20 yrs of full time. After this I found out my 13 yr was smoking pot and my husband had known for a month. Long story short he did not tell me because my son had caught my hsbd smoking and found 2 lbs of pot in the clostet. My son had been asked to hide this from me. Ok, so we went to Christian counselling. I immedialty recognized in my husband signs of an addict, denial and blameing everyone else - le tit go. 4 weeks ago I came home and found drug paraphenillia in our BR. (my husband is still not working 8 mo later) My hsb made upt this elaborate story blameing my son. I confronted my son and he fell apart. The anguish in his eyes when he pleaded "how could my Dad do this to me" told my spirit it was not my sons drug stuff. My husband kept lieing and only after 2 weeks angrily admitted it was his. He is now consitent with an addict, blameing me, self righteous, and ragefull. He refuses recovery. My son now admits to smoking again but tells me "mom I see the pain drugs have casued you and I know I need help". My son is working recovery. My husband is not at the place where he can admit he has a problem and our home has been torn assuneder. I grew up with an addict and know they must be the ones to realize they have a wound and need help. I feel my husband should leave our home until he gets to the place where he can admit this is his responsibilty. He still needs to live out the false image his family has of him as the all responsible, Christian leader. They have no idea of the truth. Thier 3 other sons have serious addiction problems. I must protect my son. What do I do?????
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