
Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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Just went to my first Al Anon meeting. It was pretty informative and I think I will continue. Since my last post I have spoken with my addict mia husband who is so unfeeling it makes me even more sad. I think he's hanging on to his anger toward me to justify his behavior to himself. He is seeing some girl that he was partying with the night I told him that he needed help for his addictions. He has only seen his son 3 times. He has helped with some bills but it is very unpredicable as to when that will stop. He likes being in control and only calling me or texting me when he feels like it. He told me is not hanging around with anyone that uses drugs and I do not believe that....if that's true why didn't he do that when he was home and I was begging him to do so. Every time I hear his voice I cry and it doesn't even phase him. I don't know which is worse talking to him or never hearing from him. I was able to tell him that I confronted him the night he left and told him I was no longer going to enable him in an attempt to save his life because I love him. Then after he left, even knowing he was cheating on me I still reached out to him and his family to try and get him treatment that was how much I loved him ....again no feelings or emotions from him (it's heartbreaking). When I told him I was going to Al-Anon he was angry and I explained what it was and why and he said I know what it is for I'm glad you are getting help for yourself. I guess I just need to know if anyone has delt with such and unfeeling and convincing liar like my husband and is just him or a result of long term substance abuse that he can be so cold and callous and never look back at the family he left behind who loved him dearly.

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I can relate to your pain. My daughter is a crack addict and she only cares about the drug. We can not change the addict but we can change ourselves. I know it's easier said than done but stop crying over this man. He could care less about you right now. Don't waste your time or energy on him anymore. Use your time to heal yourself. Time will help you. Take care of YOU!!! I'm here if you need to talk.

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I know he is so selfish and I am trying to move forward with my life for the sake of my son. My life didn't turn out the way I dreamed it would but it is better than my son growing up watching his father self destruct. Thank you for your support.

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wow, reading your story is like reading my own story. My husband has done the same thing, disappearing for days and then crying wanting to come home and swareing he isnt using drugs again. I hope alanon works for you, I am going to try it as well.

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I hope that everything works out for you. It is very hard watching your life fall apart and being helpless to change anything. My husband is so desparate to try to hide his problem that he is giving up everything we worked so hard for just to keep up appearances. Now, yesterday he was crying alot and wanted to tell our 20 mth old son he will always be his father and he will be a good dad. It so sad because all he has to do is get help but he prefers his new life to his old one. Best of luck to you with everything. Stay strong.
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