I am so angry I could scream!!! When I was home for lunch today social services came knocking on our door. My husband had been turned in for child abuse. (This is the same social worker who investigated child abuse allegations several months ago.) In the first instance my husand slapped my 8 year old across the face before shcool one morning for lying. Not his proudest moment and he apologized and had a discussion with my son before anything was reported (the school reported it and I am glad they did because you never know all the circumstances and I agree they need to err on the side of caution). SS did a thorough investigation and it was determined to be an isolated incident and not pursued. Today when they showed up I was thrown for a loop. I spoke with in investigator for about half an hour. He had already spoke to my son who said he is not abused and to the school who had no areas of concern other than the one incident they did report. I do not know for sure who made the report but I am 99% certain it was my 16 year old who is in state custody due to his addiction. He is convinced that my husband beat him everyday that he lived in our house. This is totally not true!! My husband did get physical with him on several occaisions but only to protect our other children (ie he was trying to smother his brother when my husband walked in the room). Our attempts at family counseling have not gone well and he threatened to turn my husband in. He has been threatening this for a while and I told him that he had to do what he felt he needed to. Since he is no longer in our home and knew there was no basis for his allegations I think he thought it would be easier to say my husband is abusing our 9 year old (we also have two younger children) rather than him. The social worker said the alleged incident happened on what would have been the last home visit my oldest son was allowed to have. Although he is refusing contact with us it is like he still is trying to whatever he can to manipulate the situation and make our lives more difficult. Part of me would like to file charges against my son for theft for the money he has openly admitted from stealing from us and for filing a false report but I don't think that would solve anything or help his recovery right now. I can only keep praying and take it one day at a time but it is hard. I am so frustrated right now and just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
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