Hi there everyone. Today is the first day I've had the courage to look at this community. It's all so raw & heartbreaking. I've been married for 13 years, and my husband has had 2 previous, rather short, bouts with alcohol. -one after 9/11 (personal connection to the event), another after our son (now 5 years old) was born. I believe that having children is a trigger for him. A son of ours died 10 years ago... he was an infant. Anyway... we adopted a daughter this year.. she's been home since April. She's fantastic! -but, within a month of her coming home, he started drinking. First it was at night when we were all sleeping, and then it started happening during the day. He hides alcohol. I feel totally trapped... I get no time to myself because I can't leave him alone with the kids. He's not a "mean drunk"... but he drinks so much that he passes out. So, I'm a stay at home Mom who never gets a moment to myself anymore. Thank God I've got two wonderful kids, who I enjoy spending time with. Anyway- me not having time to myself is the least of my worries... but it's there. My husband is on vacation from work right now, and he's been in bed for almost all of it. He stayed sober for 2 days when his Mom was here, and that's it. Honestly, I'm debating leaving. The problem is that I've seen him suicidal before, and I'm convinced that if I leave with the kids, he'll kill himself. Has anyone here ever staged an intervention?
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