My boyfriend has a sister addicted to meth. She had 6 beautiful kids. 5 boys, 1 girl. The 4 oldest boys are from a different father then the youngest boy and the little girl. Her youngest boy was taken away at birth almost 4 years ago due to being born with withdrawls from methadone. She has gotten into meth (again) and has lost all of her children at this point. She couldn't even show up to court, she just went and shot up instead. For almost two years now I have been involved with these kids. They mean the world to me. We were going up to visit with them about once a week. At one point, we were having just one boy, a different one every other week, come over for the weekend to stay at our house so he could get some 1 on 1 time and get a break from all the siblings! We took one of the boys shopping, out for ice cream and pizza, and he opened up a little bit. His biological is supposedly abusive, but I believe it has more to do with the mother putting these scenarios (maybe unintentionally) into the boy's heads. Anywho, she lost all of the boys and is about to lose custody of her daughter. She was told that she had until the end of this month to get into rehab or else CPS was going to place her daughter with someone else. She keeps saying she's going, but never does. I decided I wanted nothing more to do with the B**** when my boyfriend and I were helping get the youngest son and her daughter to bed and found used, uncapped meth needles under a pile of clothes on the babies floor. I was so upset! The baby, well more of a toddle, is two! She could have stepped on them! And who knows if the mom has any dam diseases! At that point, the visits from the mom had stopped and she is being evicted from her house. Tonight, my BF is so upset. His sister has to be less than 80 lbs. She's a walking skeleton. He is scared she is going to die and I can't say I blame him. He was there for every kids birth, helped raise those kids. This is tearing him apart. And then I came into the picture and jumped right in! I love those kids so much, they call me auntie and ask me when I'm going to marry my BF, even said they would make me a ring out boogers-gross! I am trying not to vent to my BF about how hard this is for me, I can't do that to him. I am trying to support and protect him as much as I can, but how am I supposed to do that from his own sister? I hate her for what she is doing to him. He said his heart physically hurt tonight. The only time I have ever seen him cry was when he found out his sister is using again. And she has chosen her addiction over her children. What can I do? To help my BF, to help her, the kids, the whole family? I feel so useless. I don't even know what to say to my BF anymore. I've told him he's done all that he is able to do, the rest is up to her. He says that everyone keeps telling him he's supposed to love his sister, but he doesn't feel anything towards her anymore. No animosity, no hate, just nothing, and that is what has me the most worried. Please, anyone who has even the faintest idea of what this is like, give me advice, give me something!
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