Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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I dont understand?

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I try hard with my alcy bloody mother and i just get pushed away or shouted at. Shes always complaining that i dont talk to her or do stuff with her but i find it hard to communicate with her after everything shes put me through. The minute i say "did you want to go christmas shopping friday ive got the day off?" trying to make it a mother daughter thing & trying to fix things.. & She bloody shouts at me!
Im so confused. I dont know where i stand anymore, i dont feel like shes my mum or that im her daughter at all. I dont feel i have a mum anymore.. Not like all my friends.. They have normal families or whatever.. A normal mum.. A mum that doesnt drink as much as mine or emotionally abuses them..
I just feel so alone & no one actually understands how fucking hard it is to be in a house with her..
At one point i thought about running away.. So i wouldnt have to put up with the abuse any longer.. But wheres that gonna get me?.. The police or social services will find me and drag me back to her.. ='[
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baby, do you have al-ateen in your area? You need support hun with this. You should not feel alone. You cannot talk to the drugs and the drugs/alcohol are in control as long as someone is not in recovery. I am very sure that this is so, SO painful for you, not to have your mom available to you. Please see about some meetings so you can meet others that will understand. And come here often to post and reach out with others that care.

I am very sorry for your pain. Please know that I will keep you and your loved ones in my prayers...
EllaBlue
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babydoll, I wish I had an easy answer for you-- it is what it is, and some day we have to come to terms with it. It's very hard to realize that your parent and/or parents, aren't the loving role models you'd like them to be.

Please don't feel alone though-- trust me, at any given moment in time there are hundreds of others going through the exact same thing-- sadly we just don't know about each other at the time.

If you're anything like I was, you are probably very good at drying your tears, wearing a fake smile and acting as if everything was normal. Everything is not always what it seems; just as you hide things, so do others. One day you'll look back and see that those 'perfect families' that you dream of, aren't nearly so perfect as you thought.

Believe me, I DO understand how hurt and alone you feel-- trapped, right? You need to find a support group or perhaps even a sponsor that can help you work through some of this pain. I know it seems like freedom is a lifetime away-- but it will get better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and you have so many people that are here for you.
mgs1
mgs1
I'm not sure if Social Services is the same in GBR as it is here. But, if you called Social Services here and told them your mother has a drinking problem and you are afraid, they would take her in for an evaluation.
I know it is very hard to do.... I am so sorry for what you are going through.
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