My husband is a recovering addict. He has been in NA and Clean for 2 years now. He wants me to go to meetings to understand what he is going through. See I went to one NarAnon meeting and it was about an hour away from my home and I can not afford the gas to go every week. He then suggested me to go to Alanon and I told him, Why would I go there when you are part of NA not AA. He told me that they are pretty much the same and I need to find my own program where I feel comfortable. I have a problem going to Alanon but when i went to a NarAnon meeting I felt like I didn't belong because people were talking about their kids or loved ones out using. My husband isn't using he is recovering and working the program. I felt weird there. I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on what I should do? Living with my husband is very hard. He is recovering and he is Bipolar so with the two together I am ready to pull my hair out. He always asks me why I take his inventory? I tell him well you live with your self for awhile and then you tell me what's up. He has replaced the drugs and alcahol with another obsession and that is computers. He obsesses and compulses over computers and he has no time for any body but those. He is on the from day to night. I just wish I had my husband back. He tells me that I can't change him he has to change himself. Which I know that. It is just hard to live with a person like that. Our children see it and myself and it is taring us up. I just had a baby in August and he will only hold her for about 5 minutes a day and then he is on his way to the computer where he will be until he goes to bed. Then he takes his medicine for his bipolar and depression and he's off to bed. I am at my wit end here and need some input if that is possible. Thanks for listening.
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