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Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
how you get out of this mess

deleted_user
My husband and his addiction has gotten us into foreclouse with the house. We have not lived together in more than a year. He has not made the boat payment and charged up the credit card to $5,000. Today the bank froze my account. In this state unless I am divorced I owe what he owes. He is in jail mo income because of his addiction.
I got the account unfroze for now but in 10 more days it freezes again and I won't have enough to make rent for my kids or for food.
I wonder who pays the attorney bill in jail if he is incarecerated???
Please pray for an answer for me. If you are currently still married to an addict make sure you are protected. I am not sure what I will do next. bankruptcy for the crime he commited addiction.
I am mad right now and I hope that everyone else who put off getting a legal seperation doesn't. This paper could have saved my credit
and put me currently at ease.
Did this happen to anyone else? How did you get out of the mess?????
I got the account unfroze for now but in 10 more days it freezes again and I won't have enough to make rent for my kids or for food.
I wonder who pays the attorney bill in jail if he is incarecerated???
Please pray for an answer for me. If you are currently still married to an addict make sure you are protected. I am not sure what I will do next. bankruptcy for the crime he commited addiction.
I am mad right now and I hope that everyone else who put off getting a legal seperation doesn't. This paper could have saved my credit
and put me currently at ease.
Did this happen to anyone else? How did you get out of the mess?????

6bagsfull
You have every right to be mad! I am an addict in recovery. I have been clean over a year & I still have an allowance. My paycheck goes to my s/o. I get money if I need it. I lost my rights to our money when I abused his trust. Thank goodness I seeked help for my addiction before I put us in the mess you are in. I am very sorry this has happened to you. I would seek advise from a lawyer. In Canada, well Alberta, you can interview a lawyer for 1 hour before you hire them. I interviewed 5 before I hired 1 for my divorce. I did get some very good advise during those interviews. I hope this helps

lkc9528
No advice just wanted to let you know I appreciate your post...I just told my boyfriend that I would give him one more chance. He is going in rehab in a few days..not by choice. Our biggest argument aside from the addiction is that I work so much and he always complains I dont spend enough time with him. He hasnt held a job longer than to recieve a paycheck then it goes straight to his stuff. I do love him this is so hard. And once I make up my mind to move on without him he begs and manipulates me into trying one more time. I think messed up giving him one more chance..rehab or no...but what do you do? Oops I think I was supposed to give YOU advice..sorry. But you did help me.

lkc9528
No advice just wanted to let you know I appreciate your post...I just told my boyfriend that I would give him one more chance. He is going in rehab in a few days..not by choice. Our biggest argument aside from the addiction is that I work so much and he always complains I dont spend enough time with him. He hasnt held a job longer than to recieve a paycheck then it goes straight to his stuff. I do love him this is so hard. And once I make up my mind to move on without him he begs and manipulates me into trying one more time. I think messed up giving him one more chance..rehab or no...but what do you do? Oops I think I was supposed to give YOU advice..sorry. But you did help me.

mgs1
Go immediately to Legal Aid.
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