I have been married to my husband for 6yrs. We have a 2nd child on the way and he is still using marijuana every day. He started using at 15 and is now 37yrs old so I feel hopeless and fear he'll never quit. I've pleaded with him to quit endlessly and naively believed him only to later find his secret stashes. I can tell immediately when he comes home and he is high; this is every day - he leaves to "run an errand" and comes back high. He claims the marijuana has no negative effects on his daily functioning; I disagree. He has become increasingly more and more lazy and depressed. He quit his full time job over 3yrs ago and hasn't had a stable job/income since then. I have been the main source of income these past 3yrs and my patience, tolerance, and money are all gone; I've had to file for bankruptcy and I am a ball of stress- currently pregnant so I feel like I am not doing the best for the baby nor the 3yr old child we already do have. I feel all responsibility rests on my shoulders while my husband has no worries and "escapes" every day into his world of pot. I feel helpless and i am unable to effectively communicate with him about the topic as my anger and frustration and pain and saddness interfere. I lost it today - I am barely coming up with money to make ends meet while he goes out and takes cash advances on his credit cards so he can buy some pot and get high. I thought about leaving last year; then we went to marriage counseling and he made me so many promises I belived because I still love this man. The promises never became reality; I don't know what to do. I appreciate any advice/support you can provide
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