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help with my husbands battle

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My husband is the love of my life. He has been addicted to opiate pain killers for three ears. On Saturday I told him I could no longer sit back and watch him kill himself. On Sunday he agreed to really quit this time. I got online and made some phone calls to diferent programs. he even went down to an outpatient trmt center, they can't help until he is detoxed. He has done nothing since then. He acts as if he is eating pills, but he says he is not. I know my husband and when he does not eat them he is very ill. he has been fine the past two days. I have heard it so many times before, how do I believe him?
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If your husband is as physically dependent on the pills as it sounds he will need to detox with medical supports.

He may not be able to stop physically, although he truly does want to QUIT - and please keep in mind that it isn't physically safe for him to detox with out medical support. Get him into an inpaitient detox program, as I understand it and depending on his level of dependance he will be very ill and need the medical help for 3 days or more...only after the drug has left his system can he begin recovery and begin a plan with an outpatient treatment center.
Good luck! Inpatient treatment for detox is scary, but from one wife to another, it is TOTALLY worth it. He really does need help to stop, and to stop safely.
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If he really wants to quit then he needs to start making the calls - not you. He does not seem to be taking any responsibility for his addiction and until he does that there is no help for him. You can't do it for him. Good luck
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If he has been addcited for 3 yrs it is not safe for him to stop on his own, and if he was it would be very obvious he was not taking anything because he would be very ill and probably not able to function. My husband has done detox, but unfortunely did NOT follow thru with the the outpatent care and was back on pills in week. They need the counseling to deal with the addiction after the detox.
And like Duci stated YOU HAVE TO STOP doing the work. I finally stopped doing everything for my husband and LEFT and beleive if he really wants to get help he needs to do it himself!!
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I agree with the others, stop calling for him. He has to do it himself.

As for believing him, if it's not true, and you sound like you know it isn't true, why do you want to believe it?
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