Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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Help for a porn addict enabler

Gassyg
Gassyg
Hi. I've recently read a book about being the spouse of a porn addict. It explained that my response to his behavior probably contributed to the continued problem. Is there any group out there like AA for familes of sex addicts? It's such a taboo problem that I haven't been able to find a lot of interractive help out there. My story is pretty sick and twisted both in his behavior and in my continued involvement in the relationship. WOW, the power of your own words. Does anyone have any help out there for spouses? Any stories with happy endings or is this hopeless?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm the spouse of an SA, and like you, it's really hard to find good help for us unless it's thru counseling, 12 step for partners, etc. The only place I found really good help from was a site called Recovery Nation. Also if you are into reading the books on it, check out Patrick Carnes, he has a lot of studies on it, probably the best.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hi,my mans as bad,but i found discovering reasons behind it helpful,as its also a phsycological issue,look into his past and you may find the cause.
Loved1
Loved1
Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody. I read a very helpful book on the subject specifically and I thought this might be it but I'm not sure, though I have Read another book by her (I think it's the same book with a revised title). I will try to look for the title of the book I'm remembering and get back with you if I find it. Hey if you want help for your spouse a best seller is excellent Every Man's Battle (everymansbattle.com), it's Christian Based. If you go to Newlife.com they do have books about what you are going through. Hope that helps (HUG)
mgs1
mgs1
I love that you said, "WOW, the power of your own words."
Most people don't realize that once you say it outloud, it becomes real. I also found it fascinating that you are looking for help. You can only change yourself, what is he doing about helping himself. Addiction is a very powerful thing. If he is not committed to getting help, nothing you can do will change the situation except to help you be strong enough to move on.
Take care.
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