I could've sworn I was doing what I was supposed to. I thought I was making him face this. I just read Ask.com's basic definition of an enabler...it was me. I always thought an enabler was someone that let's the person do it without saying anything at all. My God...I'm so upset right now! What have I done? I let him come back, because of the agreements we made. I can't very well say I've changed my mind, b/c I didn't understand what enabling meant. What do I do? I don't want to "feed" this. I didn't let him come back, b/c I want to "take care of" him or "fix it" for him. This IS the last straw. He made promises that he will have to keep or it's over. I'm so very confused right now.
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