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Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

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i read a previous post about methadone and granted i have 3 close family members going through the methadone program at a local clinic there are still alot of questions i have.
1st and most important i guess would be that one of them runs a home daycare. she is certified all the way threw the county and the clinic knows this but has never reported it. now i guess i could see if this family member was doing good with the treatment but at the clinic they all go to has a "phase" system and after over a year she is still at phase 1 which she has to go everyday because she had tested positive for other drugs with her UA's. now the other family member lives with her and has been kicked off the program for positive UA"S, but just recently got back in the program. i guess my question as i have fought with my thoughts over this. why has the clinic ever reported this knowing she runs a daycare and he lives in the same house?
out of my whole families addiction this is the one thing that really gets me. she made over $100,000 her first year as a daycare provider and had half saved up which has been all lost to "extra drugs". she is working for the county so to speak since most kids are from "daycare assistance" and she is blowing the money. i just do not understand why the clinic has never reported it.
yes i could but i do not want to be that person. only very few people know about this and she/he would know who said something. to top it off the clinic knows she used the whole time she was preg. granted the baby is fine but nothing was ever said about it or reported. believe me i have wanted to report it and that was about the time i took my own kids out of the daycare but i am faced with the question and the "policy" of their clinic and they know the situation so why havn't they reported it? they know when they have dirty UA's i only know because it has been this long and they are still on phase 1 and through the other family member telling me. so any input would be great.
1st and most important i guess would be that one of them runs a home daycare. she is certified all the way threw the county and the clinic knows this but has never reported it. now i guess i could see if this family member was doing good with the treatment but at the clinic they all go to has a "phase" system and after over a year she is still at phase 1 which she has to go everyday because she had tested positive for other drugs with her UA's. now the other family member lives with her and has been kicked off the program for positive UA"S, but just recently got back in the program. i guess my question as i have fought with my thoughts over this. why has the clinic ever reported this knowing she runs a daycare and he lives in the same house?
out of my whole families addiction this is the one thing that really gets me. she made over $100,000 her first year as a daycare provider and had half saved up which has been all lost to "extra drugs". she is working for the county so to speak since most kids are from "daycare assistance" and she is blowing the money. i just do not understand why the clinic has never reported it.
yes i could but i do not want to be that person. only very few people know about this and she/he would know who said something. to top it off the clinic knows she used the whole time she was preg. granted the baby is fine but nothing was ever said about it or reported. believe me i have wanted to report it and that was about the time i took my own kids out of the daycare but i am faced with the question and the "policy" of their clinic and they know the situation so why havn't they reported it? they know when they have dirty UA's i only know because it has been this long and they are still on phase 1 and through the other family member telling me. so any input would be great.
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Therefore, I understand your frustration with her income going towards drugs in the past but if she is trying to get help then forgiveness is very important and the past is the past. I had a harder time forgiving myself for things I did than others did of forgiving me. Anyway, that is my take. Good luck.
He use to act high, nod out etc.
I can't imagine anyone on methadone being in a responsible position of watching children , not even their own , nevermind other peoples children .
I think you should make some anonyomous phone calls to say the least . I wouldn't glet it go either , I would press it until they shut her down .
Call the place they are at. This was child abuse they are legally resposible to turn it in. Nothing will probably happen as far as charges etc, but it does need to be reported. If they don't the clinic they are at could be held responsible if anything ever happen to a child if and when they go back.
Also I would like to learn more on this meth clinic, never have heard of a long term care place for meth. I have yelled it from the mountain tops that these 30, 60 90 day programs are a waste and we needed long term care for this, now reading this I find out there is some out there.
So does these clinic's help not just with methadone but also meth????
But if I am understanding it right most of the DR.'s are not keeping a close eye on there paitents and they are becoming addict to the methadone instead of the drug they are trying to kick??? They are getting double addtions to their addiction. Or am I understanding it all wrong.
my next question is if there is long term treatments for methadone users why isn't there long term treatents centers for others.
In order to truely help someone we have to stop putting a bandaid on and sending them out. I know they are suppose to go to AA or NA after these 30 day treatments but most of them are not. Why??? Because they are given false hope with htere new found out look but not the tools they need.
I may seem to ramble but I just feel there has to be something to help more then what there is. I have a son that is a meth addict, clean for some time, but it has been back and forth for years. My grand daughter's mom the same thing. I know many many family's that struggle with the same thing.
nodding out is i think a sign that you have to high of a dose from what my mom told me. they are always testing her to make sure she is were she is supposed to be for her dose mainly because her dose is very high.
now my other famiyl members are a little different. one was kicked off and just recently back on the program and i guess yes at times he wants to try but he has such a addictive personality and for the most part can not stay away from the other stuff for to long. his wife runs the daycare and supports him financially. yes for now she is doing ok. my mom got her to go to the group meeting ect recently, but living with someone who falls off the wagon is hard for her and at times she falls off too.
when i took my kids out of the daycare it was because of "him" not her. maybe she will finally stick with it the way she is supposed too. she never acted high or on anything when i took my kids if anything it was depressed or stressed because of "him". i guess i worry more about "him" then her.
but in all i am a strong supporter of the methadone program, but it is easily abused and those who are not serious do get cut off. at the clinic these 3 family member go to it is not mandatory for them to attend group or anything other than a weekly quick chat with a counselor. i think if the people that are on it are a watched more closely and forced to attend group meetings there would be less cases of abusing it. like i said it has done wonders for my mother who has always been addicted to one thing or another my whole life. i do not worry about my kids being with her at all. she is great with them.
I am only relaying what I watched and what he told me.
As I have lived , and heard addicts will lie , and lie to me he did . So probably my experience was confused , between what I watched him act like and what he told me he was on .
Maybe thats why I feel thew ay i do about methadone ?
155mg. sounds high to me but many people say there is no one dose for people and many Methadone advocates say there should not be a limit on the dose. I am leery of that theory because that is telling an addict "The sky is the limit. You tell us when enough is enough"...LOL Now part of the addictive thinking is that esp. in the beginning of TX we don't know how to say...No I'm good, No more for me thanks".. HahA This to me is how clinics end up with people on 200-1000mg (Yes I said 1000mg..there i a clinic somewhere in the US that is prescribing that for a patient). Anyway, the clinic I go to is often chastised because they give no more than 90mg without a Peak n Trough level. This tells the doctor exactly what time the dose peaks and when it tapers off in the blood. They then couple that info with vital sign readings. This way it takes more than the patients word to increase the dose. Also there is a cap of 200mg. the doctor absolutely will not treat anyone at levels any higher. In fact the only patients on a level > 110mg are those who transfer from other clinics. IE our doctor at my clinic won't write for more than that but they take patients from other clinics who were on levels >110mg but not >200mg. Make sense? I am on 85mg. It works fine. I can't see anyone more addicted than I was and I have factors like Hepatitis, liver cancer & cirrhosis which increases your need for larger doses. So I really raise my eyebrows when people are on super high doses. I admire you for admitting why your views on methadone may be skewed. That is probably it. Thanks.
there have been cases were she was on to low of a dose and she will start craving drinking and other drugs which she want off so she tells her counselor who then will up her dose a little.
from everything i learned it is not just "here is a prescription" you need to be monitored closely to make sure you are where you need to be dose wise or you nod out and are high from to high of a dose or you crave other drugs because you are to low and your tolerance is always changing. people need to be serious about wanting the help and communicate with their counselors weekly.
my mom already told me she will be on this for the rest of her life. it is either this or back to the pills and drinking to cope because she will be in pain the rest of her life. the methadone cures her pain. she still has prescriptions for some pain meds. but when on the right dose she does not even take them.