Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Last christmas was the worst christmas i have ever had. mums an alcoholic.. and she got badly drunk in christmas day.. like mega drunk... & we came home in tha late afternoon from my cousins house & in the evening my dad, me and mum were sat watching tv n she then came out with all this abuse to me n mum dad saying that we dont care about her and so shes going to kill herself and its our fault etc.
Im staying with my boyfriend for christmas so i can get away from it all, but im scared.. I dont know what "normal" is anymore.. & obviously his parents will be drinking because its christmas day and thats fine.. i know there not like my mum.. but what if they turn out like her?.. what if they say something that'll trigger everything off in my mind? I cant get away from it.. Its always there.. & mum will be alone for christmas, well not with me or my brother or dad to look after her.. & she said that she doesnt care what i say shes going to drink.. What if she comes home that night & does kill herself? Im not there to stop her am i.. What if she falls over like she used to or goes out drink driving.. Im not there to stop her like i always am.. But i cant bare to be around her on christmas day..
Helpppp!
Im staying with my boyfriend for christmas so i can get away from it all, but im scared.. I dont know what "normal" is anymore.. & obviously his parents will be drinking because its christmas day and thats fine.. i know there not like my mum.. but what if they turn out like her?.. what if they say something that'll trigger everything off in my mind? I cant get away from it.. Its always there.. & mum will be alone for christmas, well not with me or my brother or dad to look after her.. & she said that she doesnt care what i say shes going to drink.. What if she comes home that night & does kill herself? Im not there to stop her am i.. What if she falls over like she used to or goes out drink driving.. Im not there to stop her like i always am.. But i cant bare to be around her on christmas day..
Helpppp!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Suicide threats need to be taken seriously and I wonder if you could contact someone that could deal directly with your mom, and that would not be you. That is something that those skilled in suicide thoughts can handle. Often times and SO sadly the addict or alcoholic will use that to manipulate and get what they want. That is part of the sickness. And because we never know, it DOES create such anxiety. The things is as lucy said, this is NOT anything you can control. It just is not hun.
It is healthy for you to remove yourself from those that create such chaos and cause us to feel sick. I would suggest al-anon meetings for you. You need that support and in those meetings we bond with others that understand and that can lead us in the right direction. And we do that without the guilt.
Blessings..
Ellablue
P.S if being around anyone that drinks, is uncomfortable for you, no matter who they are, you have the right to say no.
I know how painful this is for you, but it isn't normal. You cannot be responsible for your mother. That makes you co-dependent. You have to take care of yourself and just pray for your mother than she finds a way to save herself.
Take care.