I have been married for 20 years to the love of my life and we have a 20 mth old son. My husband was addicted to crack early in our marriage and has been good for years other than drinking and MJ on occ which has always been an argument because I feared he would relapse. Recently, My husband has had strange behavior for about the last 16 mths such as staying up all night in his office, drinking a lot by himself, alway irritable and isolated. I thought he was going thru a mid life crisis or was depressed because he just turned 40 and was carrying the full financial burden while I cared for our son. When I would ask him what was wrong or suggest seeing a MD for meds he would tell me "Nothing is wrong with me, my problem is you". I would tell him we are living our dream (it took us 8 yrs to have our son) and I don't understand why you're not happy and he would say "I know" but never tell me anything, or even look me in the eye when I tried to talk to him. So, I tried to figure out on my own what was going on he would stay up all night,not eat or interact with the family, not empty his voice mail or answer calls, leave at night for work emergencies and stay out till early morning with every excuse in the book why he was late.He would start a fight and leave and stay gone for days and He would always be dirty from work so I never suspected cheating.He would tell me that he slept in his truck. I started finding things like powder on his desk he said it was a pill he cut in half so I tasted it and believed it be cocaine which he denied. Then I found a cocaine baggy in his pants and he never admitted anything. I finally had enough when he came home drunk with a drink in hand and I told him that he had a cocaine and alcohol addiction and needed help and he denied it so I told him he wasn't welcome until he got help because the arguments, yelling and drugs in the home were not appropriate with a 20 mth old in the house. So, he left 1 mth ago, won't talk to me, denies to everyone that he is using cocaine and is filing for divorce without even talking to me. Now I found out he is seeing a woman that he had made several 1 min phone calls to which I thought was his supplier along with several other 1 min phone calls made repeatedly and has taken our son around her and I don't know what to do. His son needs to see his dad but I don't know where he lives or who he is around and if I don't comply with his requests he threatens to have my power cut off which is in his name. I cry all of the time, went back to work full time and I Know that I had to put an end to the behavior but he such a convincing liar to everyone that I sometimes question if I did the right thing.
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