Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I have a family member who does crack... she was kicked out of her appartment on Wednesday. She moved in with me. she been a drug adict for 20 years...she won't even acknowelgde she has a problem. She accuses me of being a pills adict becuase of the medicine I TAKE for parkison's.
Itold this is her last chance I'm going have to kick her on the street. WHAT DO I do.
Itold this is her last chance I'm going have to kick her on the street. WHAT DO I do.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You cannot make them want to stop.
If you support the adict by providing a safe place, all you are doing is enabling.
Just my 2 cents.
I had my daughter stay with me while she was in recovery and when she relapsed she had to move out. That was a very strong boundary of mine.
We cannot DO this for them. We cannot talk them into recovery and we cannot love them into recovery. As long as someone enables them by doing things for them that they "should" or "could" be doing for themselves, they won't seek help.
I cannot tell you what to do, except to tell you to please be careful and protect anything that you have that is worth money. The addict will steal and lie, and do whatever they need to do, to get their drugs.
See about al-anon for yourself. WE LOVE them, and we HATE the disease. BUT, this does not mean that we have to lose ourselves trying to help them. There is nothing you can do FOR her, she must be willing to seek help herself. I say this without judgement, I am only sharing my experience with you.
Blessings..
EllaBlue
They use everyone who loves them and burn them out. No one can tell you what to do or not to do... But ask yourself this...
Is staying with you helping her get clean?
Is staying with you making a positive addition to you life?
Is staying with you helping her grow?
Maybe if she realizes her next stop is the street she will agree to get help. If she doesn't have any money, look up your local Salvation Army - they have a very good program and it is free.
In the mean time, head Ella's warning - be careful. Be Strong and God Bless you.