Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
My husband is addicted to crack. He has been using for 12 years and refuses to go to rehab. We have lost everything. Both our cars, our house, we are currently in chapter 7 bankruptcy and living at my parents camp on the lake because we cannot afford to rent a place. We have been married less than 3 years and do not have any children together. I want out. I am on medication for depression and anxiety. I have been out of work on disability for 2 years because of these condtitions. Now I have received my last disability check and I am going to have to return to work. Thankfully I am feeling a little better about myself but I don't know what to do with him. I cannot file for divorce while we are in bankruptcy, and I am not sure divorce is right for me. I am having some religous difficulty with it. Problem is I am not sure I can forgive him any longer, and think my love may for him may have been destroyed by this addiction.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I understand your turmoil and if you can try to just manage ONE day at a time, your answers will eventually come to you. It is a process, and we have to take things in baby steps.
Forgiveness is for us. That is so we don't suffer with the anger and resentment that we keep alive in our hearts. Forgiving another person means we can let go, but if does not mean that we condone what has been done.
Addiction is a family disease. It is so often said by me and others that WE the loved ones get as sick as the addict without ever taking a drug, if we don't seek our recovery. After we reach out, we begin to live in the light again, we restore our peace and serenity and we begin to make good choices for ourselves. Again, this takes time, so please, please be gentle on yourself.
You are not alone. We all understand your pain and I am sorry for all that you have suffered. We can all get our new beginnings and we can learn to live again.
May peace be with you and I will say a prayer for your strength and for your pain to be eased.
EllaBlue