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My son as your father must have been - was in SO much pain and despair he felt he couldn't deal with it another day. I personally, have also been to this point, but failed my attempt.
God felt I needed to be here for others I guess.
It is hard to understand for most. I knew why my son did it because we spoke the night before. But he also promised he wouldn't hurt himself.
There are steps to grief and you have to allow yourself to go through all of them. Especially the anger and abandonment you will feel. I got SO angry with Casey for leaving me like he did. I was 800 miles away and helpless. He didn't give me time to move him here with me...but truthfully, I couldn't have "fixed" it.
Guilt is something else you will most likely go through. I know I did and even my own father blamed me.
Just understand YOU are not to blame. They just feel SO bad about whatever is in their life...they see no other way out.
Another thing...do NOT listen to the idiot people who play the "blame game" on either you or your family. This can be a REALLY harsh thing to deal with. My ex- pastors wife committed suicide and I warned the congregation there would be blame...they didn't believe me. Yet the public nearly became a lynch mob! Is was awful and that pastor - is no longer a pastor. He couldn't deal with the personal attacks and the church lost over 100 members and now their pastor because people just couldn't let it go.
I deal with it and dealt with it then the best way I knew how. Don't shut yourself away because you will feel like you want to. Its OK to cry, its OK to get angry and its OK to scream if you want. Don't listen to those who tell you "it will get better" or "you need to get over it". They mean well...but suicide is different. It leaves you with a LOT of questions and "what if"'s.
I am not an expert but after 9 years I have learned how to help others some. It certainly doesn't mean I still don't grieve and get mad or cry like a baby at times. Christmas...will never be the same for me and each year my head replays the phone calls...the words...and I feel things just like that day. BUT...having said that...you CAN smile at his memory...the good times you had...being blessed for having the time God gave you with him...AND to know he's out of his mental struggle to survive life.
Feel free to contact me anytime and I hope I have not offended you or anyone else in this community. This is just my opinion and things I have personally dealt with.
Bless you and I pray for comfort for you while you try to search for answers. They will not come easy...if they come at all.
Kel