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Parents are thought to be there no matter what, they are the person you call when something goes wrong, when you need advice or just someone to talk. When our parents leave this earth for good its hard on anyone, it even harder when your young and there is so much a parent wont be around for.
I am 23 years old and My mom took her life this year on the first of September no one had any idea, I even stop over at her house the day she did it. She had a good partner who supported her whom was a recovering alcoholic, she was starting to get her life on track. She asked me to stay for dinner but i left beacue i wanted to get home(i live about an hour and a half away.) she seemed upset but my mom had alot of mood swings so i didn't think anything of it. Now all i keep thinking to my slef is "if i would have stayed for dinner she would still be here.
My mom had battled alcoholism much of her life and went in and out of A.A. She had been sober for 4 months but on the day she took her life she relapsed. She had 2 brothers that took their lives as well. Some people have said being sober can be hard alcoholic because they can see all the pain they have caused. Her and my father were also divorced after 17 years of marriage because of the alchol, my father remarried and i think that hurt my mom. She never got over my father and was still in love with him. Even with all the support of her friends and family my mom pushed everyone away. She had a lot of issues she would never talk about.
I really don't know what to do. I feel so upset and i don't really have anyone to talk to who can relate to this. I feel guild for so many reasons there is part of me that isn't surprised she did this, and that makes me feel worse. There was a wedge in my relationship with her because of the drinking which makes me feel horrible.
I am 23 years old and My mom took her life this year on the first of September no one had any idea, I even stop over at her house the day she did it. She had a good partner who supported her whom was a recovering alcoholic, she was starting to get her life on track. She asked me to stay for dinner but i left beacue i wanted to get home(i live about an hour and a half away.) she seemed upset but my mom had alot of mood swings so i didn't think anything of it. Now all i keep thinking to my slef is "if i would have stayed for dinner she would still be here.
My mom had battled alcoholism much of her life and went in and out of A.A. She had been sober for 4 months but on the day she took her life she relapsed. She had 2 brothers that took their lives as well. Some people have said being sober can be hard alcoholic because they can see all the pain they have caused. Her and my father were also divorced after 17 years of marriage because of the alchol, my father remarried and i think that hurt my mom. She never got over my father and was still in love with him. Even with all the support of her friends and family my mom pushed everyone away. She had a lot of issues she would never talk about.
I really don't know what to do. I feel so upset and i don't really have anyone to talk to who can relate to this. I feel guild for so many reasons there is part of me that isn't surprised she did this, and that makes me feel worse. There was a wedge in my relationship with her because of the drinking which makes me feel horrible.
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nothing will change things, so please dont ever blame yourself - ever - if you d have stayed for dinner that night she would have done it again, when you hadnt,
mine had a few attempts to do it before finally succeeding,so youd think i could have stopped her doing it again? i was only 16 and always think why didnt i stop her ? wish i had? but ive been told time and time again if id have stopped her once or twice she would have still done it again
when these peopleare that desperate ,nothing will stop them, its the only way they feel they will ever find peace.
i would strongly recommend you get counselling, it does help, ive had it 3 times in 20 yrs and it has helped me cope with it all
i really feel for you
xxx