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A Painful Thanksgiving

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It's been just over a year since my cousin Jackie killed herself. I spent last thanksgiving with her family. My uncle, aunt and cousin (her step-dad, mother and older sister). It was the first holiday with out her and my first holiday with out my uncle from my mom's side. Now it's been a year and thanksgiving is comming around again. I've been near tears constantly and usually I'm not much of a cryer. I don't want to hear any of the normal "count your blessings" stuff that gets passed around at this time of year. I miss Jackie real bad. I know I'll probably spend the next week or two in tears. And again at Christmas. And this will probably continue for years at these holidays. Some how the impending holiday seems to open the wound even more then the anniversary of her death did. Does anyone have any advice to ease the pain, even a little? I'm pretty desperate here.
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Hi, I am feeling the same as you. My only sibling, younger brother committed suicide 1 yr and 1/2 ago and the approaching holidays are making me all nuts. I found that spending time with people who let me talk about him is therapy for me. My dad and his mate and her kids just act all in denial when I even bring his name up. I'm invited to 5 different places for the holiday and I know I should be with my dad but I'm not in denial like the rest of them, so I think I'll go somewhere that I can. I cry alot, it makes me feel better for awhile. I put the photo albums away for good for awhile. I guess the only advice is be with people who really love you and will let you be who you are whether you want to talk about it or not. Take care
Kelly
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The holidays are really bad for all of us. I don't know if there is anything that would ease the pain. Last year, we lit candles at the dinner table. One for Michael, and one each for my grandparents; this year we will have another to light for my brother in law. Just a thought if you think it will help...
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My heart goes out to you.
I hope you find the support you need.
You may want to check www.afsp.org.
May Thanksgiving bring you some peace.

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Just adding that we all understand. Today is the first Thanksgiving without my mom. We usually weren't together at Thanksgiving time, but we definitely chatted on the phone on this day.

Tears come easily for me, as well. All I can tell you is to allow yourself the slack to feel and to express what you are feeling. Love and loss have no timetable.
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