Hi i have had epilepsy for 32yrs,since i was 13yrs, i always helped around the housework,shopping etc brought up 3 children,and the only time i do get tired is during afternoon,but stress can cause epilepsy as well, but working aound the house i do my share love shirlxx

I've had epilepsy for 31 years and never had problems with doing housework etc.
I have 2 kids (girls) and there is loads of work to do.
I think most people with epilepsy cope with housework?
Perhaps your boyfriends mum is attention seeking? and feels the illness gives her the right to behave like that, and who knows maybe sees you as a 'threat' and worries she will lose her son to you?

I agree with richardw- maybe she is seeking attention. I couldn't do much housework for a while after my epilepsy came on- my first grandmal seizure was so violent it caused a bone to crush in my spine. It took nearly a year before I felt better. Did what I could on housework in the beginning, and as I felt better, the house got cleaner. My spine still hurts, though...

being a... well you know...has nothing to do with epilepsy. She is feeling sorry for herself and using her illness as a crutch. Somedays I am unable to get up and do things, but other days I have the hosue spotless, an amazing supper and time to spend with my family. It seems odd that every day she is couch ridden. I work (well am off now on sick leave) but usually work as a correctional officer. when my seizures and other illnesses are bad, they get the better of me for awhile but a get back on my feet. Don't let her blame her epilepsy for her mood. She needs some tough love, she needs to get up and start living dispite her disability. Beleive it or not she is hurting herself as well as you guys.
Kelly

Thanks everyone for responding to this, Maika, tough love doesn't work, she is so beyond lazy and mean that she won't even change to help herself, she brags about how many pills she takes and actually got annoyed when she found out I was taking more than her, I'm her competition, if I go to the doctors she thinks up a reason for why she has to go! I am having to hide the fact that I am going to a shrink because god knows what she would be like if she found out, she went to one a while ago and they sent her away saying there was nothing wrong.

Hi there i spent nearly a year in a wheelchair due to my epilepsy i had so many seizures in one night that my brain shut down for a while, i was told at one that i may not walk again...but hey im walking and working full time, and still having seizures and i still find time to clean the house, yeah i get moody, but thats just part of life...epilepsy is a condition that you learn to live with....hugs to you.

in my opinion wen first diagnosed i carried on working even after having a grand mal fit and worked for 12-14 hrs a day even though my dad hated me for it.if she can get to see her DR.then she can get around but how old is she?how much medication is she on is important to know before I would judge and like you say a little love goes a long way.Try reasaoning and like richard says she may be feeling threatened that the love of her life may tommorow walk out of her life with you so show some compassion and gradually and nicely get her to do somesmall things around the house..

Trust me she isn't threatened by me because I am dating her son, she is horrible to all her family, she tells her daughter that she is a fat cow, a bad mother and that she wishes she was dead, I had all the compassion in the world for her when I first moved in and even tried involving myself with her, like asking her if she would like me to do any housework etc, she started to treat me like a maid so that had to stop, her epilepsy doesn't affect her mobility in anyway or anything else, she has even had it checked out, she rarely has fits and they don't last long and are not violent or cause any serious problems for her afterwards. I'm sorry but I'm just all out of compassion.

Hmmm....After reading your additional post I wonder fi she is suffering from depression. It is not uncommon for those with depression to "sign out" of life, not wanting to fulfill thier normal "duties" so to speak, to look down at and speak badly of other, and take advantage of others who are being nice to them. Its a possibiblity.

Only gets depressed when she doesn't get her own way, just that simple, real depression or put on i don't know.

I WAS BORN WITH EPILEPSY,AND WORK A FULL TIME JOB AND KEEP A HOUSE RUNNING,AND IAM A AUTOMECHANIC SOMTHING THE DOCTORS SAID I WHOULD NEVER DO.

Everyones epilepsy is different. For me, I can hold a steady job and live a normal life. If I never told you I had epilepsy, you would never even know. However, there are people who have epilepsy that cannot get their seizures controlled. Then meds really do affect a persons mind and emotions. I think you need to be more compassionate towards your boyfriends Mom..even if she's being sneaky, just be the better person....you don't know if she's faking...no matter what your dad'd epilepsy was like...she and your dad are two unrelated people, with unrelated health conditions. Good luck.

What does your boyfriend think of her behavior? What are her symptoms? How often does she have seizures? It sounds like she needs to stop using epilepsy as an excuse not to do anything and get off her slack butt! I have it and I have a wiked job thats 60 hours a week + making costumes!

Everyone in the house believes she uses epilepsy to her advantage, she doesn't very often have seizures, about 2 a month, she has been on the same meds for years but has only in the past few years gotten the way she is and doctors can find no reason for it, she has even had brain scans, been to a psychologist and they all sent her away saying pretty much, drink less coffee, get more excercise and watch less TV! When neurologists and psychologists say there is nothing wrong and after everything I have witnessed I just can't be compassionate.

everybody is different,i'm taking lamotragine for my seizures and they really tire me out, some days its hard to even get out of bed in a morning but i also suffer from anaemia,has she had her iron levels checked, does she suffer from depression? personally i dont think her epilepsy would make her a nasty person, maybe that is just the way she is,i would have to say something as i couldnt cope with her being a moody mare!! but like i said her meds could make her tired?? only she knows!!!