I have been in a relationship with a great man for a year now. We live together, I have a 7 yr old, and he has 3 teenage daughters. He is 42, and I'm 23. When I first met my boyfriend my endo wasn't bothering me alot, but it has continually gotten worse. I had surgery two months ago and still have no relief. My boyfriend tries to understand, but he just doesn't get it. He knows that sex hurts me, and he says he doesn't want to be selfish and have sex with me when it hurts me, but when we go days without he gets a little grumpy and does nothing but obsess about sex. He talks about it so much that it hurts my feelings. I know he doesn't mean it, and I've tried to talk to him about it but he gets very defensive. I just end up having sex with him even though it hurts me, because it's easier on my daily life. He also makes comments all the time about how "serious" I am. It's hard to be fun loving and joke all the time when you're in pain. When my boyfriend makes comments about how serious I am and then I try to explain to him that I am emotionally worn out from pain, he gets defensive again and says that he was just joking, but I KNOW he wasn't. Don't get my wrong, I love him to death and never want to live without him, but he is making life with endometriosis even harder for me. I just don't know how to make him understand without him going on the defense. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?
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