sorry to ask this here....I just culdn't bring myelf to ask the depression brd...figured I would get beat for man bashing...

Deary me you do make me giggle. MEN! Arggggg don't get me started. I am known as your general house scivy, I do everything. My husband has never washed up unless I am in hospital, he doesn't know how to use a hoover or a washing machine and i could go on but I am sure you get the gist of things. But on the other hand he does work incredibly long hours and he is really good with D.I.Y, he will fix anything that is broken straight away. So I think it is about getting the right balance between you. It is different if you both work as you both have to pull your weight around the house as not one person can be responsible all the time. This did happen to me as for a short period when I was on Lupron I was so well I got back into employment. i was working 36 hours a week as well as doing everything I did before. I felt like I was a kettle about to boil. It was only when I went into hospital that my husband realised I had pushed myself too far. He was great for a couple of weeks, which shows men can do it, but then he reverted back to his old ways. I can't give you advice on this score as I have to deal with the same problems but I certainly know what you mean when you say you could of quite easily bashed him.

That's quite allright! Sometimes, you need to bash. Men bash women too ya know?!?! In all honesty, I don't think men change all that much, even though any one, male of female is capable of change. I think it is in "most" men's nature to 'act like a man'. Just as it is in a woman's nature to 'act like a woman', right? I mean, there are those exceptions, not every person fits the mold, but I think the majority is about right. haha. If you could understand that... haha I don't know if that made any sense.

I am right there with you! Mine doesn't do anything. Well, he will get me ice cream! But with all of the cats plus him there is so much cleaning. I wish I could get some help too! Hey, if you figure out how to make them let me know! ; )