I have EDS type 3 and when I found out about it I decided that I did not want to bear my own childeren . I don't like that its pretty much a 50/50 shot that my child would be born with EDS . I am in pain constantly and do not wish to pass this on . Not to mention the complications that can arise for myself . I decided that if childeren were in my future that I would adopt or use a surrogate . I figure that gives whatever child I would have a chance at stronger genes . I am in a relationship with a very good guy who I like alot . He is very understanding of my constant pain and discomfort as well as my mood swings and anxiety . He wants childeren someday . I told him how I feel about having my own and hes not happy . He has a physical deformity in his hand and his foot . He said he has the same fear ( having a child with physical problems ) then said he also knows he is willing to take a chance that he could get a messed up baby even if he was perfectly healthy . I understand where he is coming from as well but I know I am not healthy and I know its a strong chance my child will suffer in pain everyday and I just can not do that . Would I love my child any less ? No , but if I have the chance to prevent it why not ? I just dont know what to do . I dont want to lose a great guy but I also dont want to stay in a relationship if I cant give him what he wants ....
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