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why dose he hate me?

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I swear my hubby hates me every night he cracks it and throws his plate across the room because whatever i cook isn't to his liking and then because i.m so edgy after his little out burst i can't bring myself to eat more than what i had already eaten (ussually about 2 mouthfuls) what dose he like me like this why dosen't he just tell me what he wants to eat i can't serve him a plate of i don't know and if i just don't cook for him he won't eat at the same time and then comes in to the bedroom and stares at me while i'm eatting. i just don't get it he cracks it big time when i don't eat and when i do he put me off my food what is it dose he like me like this or dose he want me to die so he can get my life insurance or is it he dosen't understand why dose he hinder me so much
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can someone please give some help with this please and thankyou TrB22
ShariB
ShariB
Here's some advice...The FIRST time someone threw a plate of food that I have made for them across the room would be the LAST time that I ever cooked them a meal. It would probably be the last time their key unlocked the door to the house also.
I don't think anyone here is going to be able to give you advice on a situation like this because quite frankly, this relationship sounds wickedly abusive. The only thing I can suggest is contacting your local YWCA for help and guidance. Hugs to you. Please stay safe. xoxo
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Why are you still with this jerk? He is abusive and he will never let you get healthy. Tell him to get some anger management classes and go to marriage counseling with him. If he refuses you should tell him to pack his stuff. Until then cook for youself and eat before he comes home and tell him to cook for both of you so he can get what he likes. You have to be healthy and think of yourself first before you can takle a serious problem like this. Good luck, hon.
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he is getting anger management and trying as he is nice most of the time but it seems like at tea time he wants me to feel more edgy and end up not eatting even thought he says the oppsite
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i need anger management, but even as pissed as i am all the time, i don't throw my wife's cooking around. i have to apologize for yelling about stupid crap sometimes, but he's being a little over the top, if you know what i mean.
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Does your husband abuse you in any other way? It sounds like an abusive relationship to me. Whether it be physically or emotionally you have to get help or get out. It will only get worse!
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shariB got it just right ! ! !

your husband must have good qualities becasue you chose him, however you are more important!

maybe a seporation would help you.
have some 'me' time, and sort your head out a bit.
gather stength and decide
"do i want this or not"

i always think having other people around is nice, but i have been alone before, and i survived, so i can do it again.

if someone is going to bring me down, then i don't keep them around.
wether they mean to be abusive or not,
the fact is they still did it.

my time is precious, if someone doesnt deserve it, then they dont recieve it!

xxxxx
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I agree that this sounds like an abusive relationship. I know it is sometimes hard to see because I am sure you love him. However, there is a ton of support out there and you are not alone. This is the number to the national domestic violence hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and this is there website: http://www.ndvh.org/

I would also check your local resources for some support. Your safety is a basic right that you have!!
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i was getting anoyed reading your posts saying that he is abuseive but the cheak list on that web site i answered four of them yes wow like i know he gets angery and makes me upset ect but to me abuse has always been totally beating up you other half but i guess there are other things to abuse and you don't have to lay a hand on the other person for it to be abuse thanx heaps i think i might talk to him about this and go throw the list with him again thankyou
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